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Transcript: Casawasco Camp & Retreat Center Who is Connie Fraser What is Conflict? Kraybill Style Inventory Most Used Style vs. Least Used Style Culture of Conflict Exercise Moving ON Resistance to Forgiveness Magic of Forgiveness Reconciliation Transformation & Transcendence Conflict Behaviors Transformational Possibilities Reflective Practice & Next Steps What is Happening Today? WHY ARE WE HERE Make Space for Open, Honest, Meaningful Discussions JUDGEMENT FREE ZONE Acknowledge We Are All Different GROUND RULES WHAT DO YOU WANT TO GET OUT OF THIS WORKSHOP? GOALS Is a struggle between people, which may be physical, or between conflicting ideas. The word comes from Latin ‘conflingere.’ Conflingere means to come together for a battle. Conflicts can either be within one person, or they can involve several people or groups. Conflicts arise because there are needs, values or ideas that are seen to be different, and there is no means to reconcile the dispute. Conflict.... WHAT IS CONFLICT Deeper level of empowerment & understanding Recognize the inevitability of conflict and it’s potential to generate positive outcomes Ownership of outcomes – fix systems not people Define Conflict in New Ways... OPPORTUNITY “Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter” - Martin Luther Why... " One or more parties to the conflict are frustrated because there needs or goals are thwarted or not being met. If they could arrive at a solution to the problem, the conflict would go away. (Fisher & Ury, 1981 ‘Getting to Yes’) A Problem to be Solved Theories There is an imbalance in a relationship. This causes upset of some kind, such as anger or sadness. These strong emotions have people feeling weak and unable to recognize the other person and his or her needs. This in turn, escalates the conflict, as both parties feel less and less heard. In order to resolve the conflict, each person has to gain clarity about his or her feelings, perspective and what they truly want. This clarity empowers the person enabling strength to recognize the other person and his or her needs. (Bush & Fogler, 2005 ‘The Promise of Mediation’) A Crisis in Human Interaction Based on postmodern philosophy, this theory holds that people create meaning from language and experience and because each person is unique, with a unique perspective, conflict is inevitable. From this view there is no one truth, but many realities occurring at the same time. In order to resolve conflict, people need to deconstruct what they see as the only truth and construct a new story which includes different perspectives and options for outcomes. (Winslade & Monk, 2001, ‘Narrative Mediation’) Constructed by Others “Our most profound and lasting ideas regarding conflict were forged in our families of origin.” Anatomy of Conflict When someone is having a strong emotional response to something, chances are they are responding to a past hurt. In most conflict... Inside Conflict This is a critical point where you can dive headlong into a heated argument. Seek FIrst to Understand Make Space for Open, Honest, Meaningful Discussions JUDGEMENT FREE ZONE Acknowledge We Are All Different ≈ Conflict.... KRAYBILL STYLE INVENTORY Title