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Transcript of Self Help
Barker, M. (2012). Rewriting the rules: An integrative guide to love, sex and relationships. London: Routledge.
Burkeman, O. (2012). The antidote. London: Canongate.
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History of Self Help
with Self Help?
Rewriting the Rules
Example: Relationship & Sex Self-Help
Example: Oliver Burkeman & Mindfulness
Perpetuates self-monitoring culture
Experience of self-help
What do we mean by self-help?
Who uses self-help and why?
Have you engaged with it? What books or other advice / self-improvement products?
Thoughts: What's useful / problematic about self-help?
Is self help necessary in any form?
What alternatives are there?
Can 'anti-self-help self-help' escape the problems of self-help?
What kind of sex / relationships advice / self-help would you like to see? Can it be inclusive? Can it recognise the role of the social?
1710 Cotton Mather - Essays to do Good - within social role
1757 Benjamin Franklin - The Way to Wealth - possible to change social role
1859 Samuel Smiles (Scotland) - 'self-help' used to mean personal development
Early C20th shift from focus on hard work to positive thinking (New Thought)
1940s - How to Win Friends and Influence People - first to combine advice and anecdote - smile, use people's names
1950s - The Power of Positive Thinking - stories of people who achieved great things (survivor bias common)
1960s - I’m OK, You’re OK - victimisation theme - blaming problems on others
1980s/90s onwards - Empowerment movement - backlash - you are responsible for your own problems / bad behaviours
Taken to extremes - Robbins etc. - merely thinking positively brings positive things to you (victim blame)
The Secret: “Why do you think that 1 % of the population earns around 96 % of all the money that’s being earned? Do you think that’s an accident? It’s designed that way. They understand something. They understand The Secret, and now you are being introduced to The Secret.”
1975-2000 - doubling of self-help industry (% of book sales)
45,000 titles, $12 billion industry: gurus, speakers, spin-offs
Increasing promises in decreasing time frame
Don't work - people buy more
Internalises problems - blames the individual - requires people to change
No awareness of social context or complex biopsychosocial interaction
Commercialism - based on convincing people they are lacking and offering fixes (which don't fix or create new lacks so have to buy more)
Foucauldian panopticon - encourages people to monitor selves, compare against (idealised) others, focus inwards, ignore social ills and other's suffering - self-help perpetuates this
Singular/static understanding of the self
Books often take for granted that the best way to be is the one that is currently socially normative e.g. 'successful' at work, rich, married with children, happy, etc.
Little critical engagement with whether such aims are worth striving for or whether striving for them will be effective.
Perpetuate normative ideas of what it is to be a successful self: excludes those who do not fit this, increases anxiety in those who are trying to fit.
One norm rather than diversity of possibilities
What are the rules?
Why question the rules?
What alternatives are there?
What might it be like without rules? (embracing uncertainty)
Turning outwards to societal 'rules' rather than inwards. Critical engagement & self-care.
Awareness of sociocultural context of suffering (differing levels/types of distress across time/culture/group)
Biopsychosocial - not internalising/victimation binary
Critical of existing self-help & wider social context (neoliberal, consumer capitalist, panopticon)
Encouraging critical engagement
Drawing on philosophy (e.g. de Botton - various philosophers, Burkeman - Ancient Greek & Buddhist)
Aware of paradox that striving for happiness/success often achieves the opposite
Burkeman's alternatives to positive thinking
Stoic pause: The cause of suffering is our judgement about things not the things themselves
Meditation: Practice letting thoughts and emotions come and go rather than attaching to the storyline
Question goal setting: Creates a gap between where you are and where you want to be
Be present: 'Do you have a problem right now?' - Ekhart Tolle - living in past/future creates problems
No need to 'get motivated' or 'find your passion' before you can get it on and act – Shoma Morita
Distinguish between bad outcomes and terrible ones: 'What's the worst that could happen?' – Albert Ellis
Be open to vulnerability rather than defending yourself
Question rigid, static, fixed self: Takes off the pressure
Embrace uncertainty rather than striving after safety and security
Memento mori: Consider death every day
Captures much of this - psychosocial noticing - how social operates through us
Sit comfortably & quiet, shut your eyes, relax any tension
Focus on the natural breath for 5 minutes
Be aware of everything that comes & goes - sensations, thoughts, feelings
Bring your attention back to the breath like an anchor
The Rules & The Game - getting what you want from the 'opposite sex' requires figuring them out and playing them
Mars/Venus thinking - men and women are naturally different and relationship problems are located in gender difference
Mars & Venus in the bedroom (Potts, 1998)
What is being done?
How it is being done?
Contradictions and inconsistencies