Boundary 1

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by Jaclyn Gorman0 views·Updated Nov 12, 2021
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  1. before you learn how to set limits. Let's talk about why we set limits limits.
  2. Setting is an important skill for us as parents
  3. and caregivers and for us to teach to our Children
  4. when we teach them limits, it isn't about being punitive or punishment,
  5. it is simply about teaching our Children what is an appropriate
  6. way to engage with certain people and in certain situations,
  7. the most basic limits that we set our around
  8. safety and they start from a very young age,
  9. don't touch the stove where your seatbelt don't run into the street.
  10. These are things that we start learning right away and help us to be safe.
  11. We also teach our Children when we set these limits, that they can feel safe with us,
  12. that we are going to let them get out of control and that we are going to make sure
  13. that they have some amount of structure in their
  14. life to be able to navigate the world safely.
  15. When we use this abc method of limit setting.
  16. We also make sure that our Children are learning about their emotions.
  17. We have a step acknowledge where we acknowledge
  18. what's going on for our child in order
  19. to help them separate their emotions from their
  20. behavior and understand that their emotions okay,
  21. It's often their behavior that has to change.
  22. We also limit use limits to teach our Children boundaries.
  23. We want them to both respect other people's boundaries but also
  24. understand and recognize that they can set their own boundaries.
  25. These can be physical boundaries. These can be emotional boundaries.
  26. These can be professional boundaries as they get older.
  27. This is an important skill to have, not just for now as Children,
  28. not just to comply with what we want,
  29. but for them to understand that they can do this themselves as well.
  30. Finally limits up limits. Help our Children learn personal responsibility.
  31. When I say this, I'm talking about things like doing homework,
  32. having a job, being able to have the things they want
  33. before I can play video games,
  34. I have to do my homework as I get older in order to buy the video games, I have to do my job
  35. and in order to be successful in these different settings,
  36. we have to have limits.
  37. And so by teaching our Children limits now we're helping prepare them for
  38. the future so that they could be successful in whatever way they choose.
  39. An important thing to remember is as we set limits.
  40. One of our goals is going to be to ensure that it is in a punitive process.
  41. Setting limits is not about punishment, I'll say it again,
  42. setting limits is about teaching.
  43. We want our Children to understand
  44. what's happening over here is okay,
  45. what's happening over here is not not just because I want to control you,
  46. but because I want to keep you safe because your feelings are valid
  47. because you're allowed to have boundaries and because I want you to be successful
  48. as you go through this course,
  49. keep that in mind and remember we're learning a skill that benefits us,
  50. but also in the long run, benefits our Children.
  51. Thank you.