Power, Charisma, Beauty, and Narcissism-Hummingbirds and Rabbit Holes Project

Hello,

my name is Adam King and I'm doing my presentation on the Psychology behind Power,

charisma, beauty and narcissism.

One thing that not many people know about me is

that I'm actually really into psychology and self improvement.

I'm always observing myself and others and trying

to connect physical actions to their mental causes.

The book, the 48 Laws of Power had been in my Amazon

Cart for like a month

or so before this project.

And I definitely took that as an opportunity to research power in this, you know,

project.

That book is definitely pretty intense and is

actually banned in some prisons because of it.

And that really intrigued me and pulled me in and let's

just say I fully understand why it is banned now.

So starting off power, what is it?

The

there were like a lot of definitions for power. But

you know,

the one that I read said that power is defined as the capacity or

ability to direct or influence the behavior of others or the course of events.

So by having power,

it's easier to keep yourself from getting manipulated or looked over.

And of course, it's easier to become a certified control freak.

So what are the properties or the effects of power?

There was a lot of content on power making it really difficult to summarize.

Um So I would recommend reading

the 48 Laws of Power, which is what I read or doing your own research.

If you really want to get a complete sort of knowledge on this topic.

As far as the effects that power has on people, it tends to go one way,

people who gain power will demand that more is given

to them than the person who had been in their

position before they were in it.

If that makes any sense and moreover, tend to act pretty greedy.

You.

Another thing to note about power is that it can be faked,

but you must instead fake the habits of someone with power. If you want it,

you can acquire charisma, confidence, dependability, et cetera.

But claiming to be more powerful than you are isn't wise. So if that's not how we do it,

how do we gain power?

Acquiring good traits is really important to gaining power.

But there are certain more specific things to know about power

in order to fully comprehend how you're supposed to gain it.

Some of my favorite laws to gain power from the book I read were Laws four and Nine.

Law four reads always say less than necessary,

which taught me about leaving people to wonder but

saying less and making what you say really impactful,

you seem more mature, causing others to eventually put you on a pedestal.

Law Nine which reads when through actions, never through argument

was also really strong.

The book said, demonstrate,

do not explicate this basically covers the whole principle.

When proving others wrong action is concrete.

There's no evidence in words, but there is evidence and results.

So on the flip side,

how do you prevent loss of power?

My favorite laws that prevented it were law five and Law 10,

which, you know, really spoke out to me

all my life.

I've heard that reputation shouldn't matter that I shouldn't care

what other people think of me and so on,

which is nice and all.

But law five reads so much of your life depends on reputation

guarded.

So why is reputation suddenly important?

So the thing is, it's always been important.

People just ignore that having something you are known for,

puts you above other people for the sake of, you know, emotional satisfaction.

So,

you know,

there is definitely a big advantage in being aware of your reputation as long as

you don't let it get to your confidence if you know what I mean.

I also really like to attend because it was really relatable to me.

It reads infection, avoid the unhappy and the unlucky

by being around people who don't exemplify the traits that you want.

You are dragged down by association in society and you're also dragged down

by lack of energy retention of those people's mood or their traits,

et cetera emotionally.

So personally,

I've had a lot of experience with the concept and can 100% say

that when you're friends with people below your happiness or success level,

it drags you down too.

One thing that a lot of powerful people have is charisma.

And that really drew me into the concept,

especially because I've been called charismatic a couple of times

and because it's hard to define it really piqued my interest.

So how about we define it?

What is charisma?

I've read a lot of different definitions of charisma,

but my favorite said that charisma has been

defined as a mix of being affable and influential

and affable, just means nice or likable.

Basically, this

is, you know, extended upon in a

description from another book I read,

which said that individuals with charisma are emotionally expressive,

enthusiastic, driven, eloquent, visionary,

self-confident and responsive to others.

So,

Charismatic people make others feel happy,

happy and can control them simultaneously.

So you can see charisma and power tie together pretty well as a lot

of Charismatic people are put in positions of power due to their personalities.

But that's just one of the benefits. One of the other benefits

I brought you

my favorite excerpts from the article in the book I read to answer this are being

taught by someone who is defined as Charismatic

is proven to cause you to learn better.

And my second quote,

charismatic individuals tend to make very positive first impressions.

Moreover,

charismatic individuals tend to be judged as more

physically attractive than their non charismatic counterparts.

So basically people with good charisma give off better first impressions,

they tend to be perceived as more physically attractive.

And there is research done suggesting they are judged as more honest.

On top of all this people will listen cooper

and learn better from you if you're charismatic.

So at this point,

you probably want to become more charismatic unless you just really enjoy

being in touch with your authentic non charismatic self or whatever.

It just sounds like procrastinating on your own success to me.

So if you have charisma, be grateful and if you want it,

here are some of the basics on what you need to know

so that you can turn your authentic self into your best self.

How can you learn charisma? OK.

To gain charisma, you must develop your personality to become more confident,

more empathetic and a better listener or speaker,

depending on which area you lack more in

knowing you, you might need to target both also having good body language,

strong self worth and being socially aware.

All help with gaining charisma,

but also aid in becoming a better person overall.

If you want to become the person, you have to mimic the personality.

And while you're at it,

you might wanna mimic the appearance too because beauty plays a

very large role in society and can boost your power.

So there's a little bit of connection there too.

It definitely plays a large role in charisma as well. Maybe it's just me.

But I feel like I had a really big physical appearance shift coming out of

middle school and I noticed that a lot more people were treating me well,

wanted to talk to me, respected me.

However,

there were also people who actually started to point out

flaws in me that were somehow never an issue before.

So naturally, I wanted to connect those behaviors to their source in psychology.

I had one friend specifically who was doing this very frequently.

So it just really started making my brain,

you know, making the gears start turning.

So what makes something beautiful? And is it all physical

to start off my research?

I conducted an interview asking people what they find beautiful

in friends and what they find beautiful in partners.

I found that many people like when their partners

look more traditional and fit feminine and masculine norms.

I also found that a lot of people value similar traits

in their friends to

traits in their partners.

So yes, beauty is partially physical and no, not completely based on the text.

What is beautiful is good.

People see those with higher integrity as more beautiful.

While another article contradicting that one, which is called,

what is beautiful is good dot dot dot But

argues that beauty is more relative to people

with favorable personality traits and successful lives.

The articles are actually

arguing against each other kind of, which made it really interesting to read.

But both of them agreed however,

that the brain is biased and people with non physical qualities that

are good are received as good or perceived as market looking.

So I'm guessing that that friend treated me differently because she

didn't know how to tell me that I was pretty.

Last thing I wanted to answer was, was there a part of her brain that one friend

that kind of, you know,

like clicked? I guess that made her acknowledge beauty, right?

So to answer that, here's a quote that says it way better than I do.

Brain scientists who favor the idea of such a quote. Beauty center

have hypothesized that it may live in the orbital frontal cortex,

the ventromedial prefrontal cortex or the insula.

If this theory prevails,

then beauty really could be traced back to a single region of the brain.

We could experience beauty in the same way,

whether we are listening to a Franz Schubert song, staring at a Diego Velasquez

painting

or seeing a doe Denning under the Starlight. So

yes, to answer your question,

there is a possible part of the brain that acknowledges all types of beauty

or I guess it's rather my question.

Last thing that I wanted to discuss was narcissism.

I'd be lying if I said there was any other reason for my interest in narcissism.

Aside from my experience with a narcissist,

I lived with one for years and it totally screwed my mind up.

I'm so grateful for my experience though because

it developed

Cinna

and sparked my interest in all of these topics.

It also connects with all these topics

they use, they mean narcissist,

their charisma and their beauty to manipulate you and to gain power over you.

Obviously, I know how my experience with a narcissist went and how it affected me.

So I decided to answer this, how did his personality affect him?

Because it's got to be pretty hard to

live with yourself when you're looking and acting,

you know, like that.

So what is narcissism

and what is narcissistic personality disorder or NPD?

And what's the difference between the two?

So I think we've all heard the word narcissist before I

assume it's frequently used to describe overly confident or arrogant people.

However,

NPD and narcissist or narcissistic personality disorder is not

used so casually and narcissism and NPD are different.

NPD is a psychological disorder that causes people to

not feel empathy, fantasize about beauty brilliance, power and

so on.

They believe in their own superiority,

take advantage of others to get what they want,

believe they should receive special amounts of treatment, et cetera.

They also feel high amounts of shame when failing to reach perfection

or even lash out at others in order to have a

chance at covering their imperfection which makes them incredibly delusional,

quite frankly and dream to be an air and I can definitely verify.

So, is there an observable difference in the brain caused by NPD?

The short answer is yes,

there's an observable difference in the brain structure

between people with NPD and people without it,

the variation more specifically is within the gray matter,

which is an intelligence indicator in the brain.

So what causes MP D What causes the difference?

There are many types of narcissism such as grandiose entitlement, vulnerability,

antagonistic, seductive and so on.

NPD can be hereditary.

So, you know,

there's a couple of statistics I found on this were that people with grandiosity,

narcissism,

um

it was shown to be 23% heretical and entitlement was shown to be 35%.

So mostly NPD comes from other sources and isn't mostly heretical.

The main causes of NPD tend to be an over

praise or overprotection growing up or on the flip side,

maltreatment and lack of warmth.

So, can narcissism be cured? That's the main question and how

narcissism or narcissistic traits may develop as

ways to deal with abuse or neglect,

just like any other mental disorder NPD cannot be cured,

but it can be treated to minimize its effect by contradicting

these old coping mechanisms and replacing them with new ones.

So

here's a little bit of a recap slide talking about some,

you know, summarizing basically everything that we have learned

and here are my citations.

Thank you so much for listening.

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