Face to Face

All right.

So let's talk about the two kinds of bullying that

are really important for you to be able to understand

before we get into the game to see if you

really get those three R's a boy.

So the 1st 1 is face to face.

Now we see in this we see it sometimes in

the hallway.

Maybe somebody is getting into somebody space and really doing

that to make them feel What?

Why would somebody get in someone else's face to make

them feel uncomfortable?

Right, So they're using their physical size, they're bigger.

Or maybe they just lost control and they are making

that confrontation.

They are.

Instead of using the kind of skills that you're gonna

have, they are just losing maybe that control or feeling

that anger.

And they are getting in that face of somebody and

want to cause that kind of bullying to occur.

Okay, so this is an easier way, I think, in

easier former bowling to identify because the other one is

behind the back.

Now it's just is hurtful.

But behind the back bullying can be something like a

rumor. It could be something like something as simple as

rolling the eyes.

Okay. For instance, you might be reading.

Ah, book.

Right? And you get finished.

That section that book and you've just read maybe a

story that you really like.

It's working.

Oh, right.

We all know that, and it makes us feel bad.

Okay. And especially if somebody's doing it a lot.

Know the words?

There you say to yourself, they did that to hurt

me, Or I saw that person do that roll their

eyes at that other person with their arms crossed, and

it was obvious that they were trying to make that

other person feel bad.

So what we're gonna do is we're gonna go through

some examples here and the first couple I'll give you

some clues on, and I'll give you some pictures, but

we're going to be able to identify what it is

that's occurring in terms of the tree types of bowling.

Is it behind the back pulling or face to face

bully? And I want you guys to be able to

tell me the difference on, So let's get into it.

All right.

So the 1st 1 is this.

We've got this.

Excuse me.

We got this kid.

He's inquest is always going and flicking the year of

the other kid in front of him.

Now, you know this is something that can occur.

Like in this situation here where maybe he's the new

guy on the team and they're having fun.

But then there is the kind where in this case,

Bob is flicking the year of the kid in front

of him.

He does this all the time, right?

And he's doing it, uh, to hurt them.

So what do you guys say?

Is this behind the back, Pulling our face to face?

Yes, I agree.

It's face to face.

Now, the next one here.

Okay, Jamie shoves Andy and and he goes to the

ground. She tells him to let her cut into the

kickball players line because Jamie has done this to Andy

before. So basically, Jamie is continually going pushing Andy to

the grand.

She is saying, Andy, I'm going to take your place

so that I can get in line.

What you guys think is that face to face boy

or behind the back?

I agree that it is face to face Now, the

next one here.

Now, this is a good example Oh, there she goes

again, Margaret whispers about Is she is so creepy and

stupid. Let's be sure not to play with her at

recess and that none of our friends let her sit

with us at lunch.

So what's going on here?

Is that the face to face or behind the back?

Yes, it's behind the back, and it's harder to recognize

because, you know, there she goes again.

Margarets whispers to Bonnie.

She is so creepy and stupid.

Let's be sure that the play were third.

So the person that is being called creepy or whatever

is is not aware that this has occurred.

It's happening behind her back and so, But then the

behaviors and the way that people are going to treat

her are now affected.

In other words, she walks by that table and they

kind of said, Can't sit here, you know, or she's

gonna pick up on that That vibe that says, I'm

not welcome here or someone is, you know, using bullying

or their bullying may, and I'm not sure what it

is. And because of that element of not knowing who

is saying what.

It has a really negative effect because it makes you

feel like you don't know who is your friend, and

it's a really, really important thing to understand.

And I think we all have had this happen to

us where there's somebody that is purposely making us feel

bad by making others, uh, feel, uh, or look to

us and say, Hey, that did you see what happened

when he fell on his space?

Ah, he's so clumsy.

There's all searching for examples, but somebody is passing on

some kind of mean message that has made for meant

to make you feel bad.

Okay, now we've got a situation here where Natalie and

MEREDITH or reading a story together when they finished.

Now they looks at MEREDITH's, says that was a stupid

story in a waste of time.

What you guys think is that behind the back bully?

Or is that face to face?

I think it's kind of face to face.

Yes, you're saying you know that story read.

That was stupid.

You know, I really don't care for it, and it's

making her feel bad.

All right, so now let's take a look at the

rest of them, and I want us to discuss them

So Jack says, Don't hang around, Peter.

This new kid, that new kid.

I heard that he got kicked out of his old

school after his parents got divorced.

Well, what do you guys sick Is that behind the

back or face to face?

I think that's definitely behind the back.

And what is he doing here?

What do you guys think?

Do you think Jack is doing?

Yeah, I think Jack is basically using gossip or a

story or rumor to make this other person that is

new. Uh, the bad guy were, you know, say, you

know what?

Let's let's make him Let's leave him out because he's

new. And I'm gonna spread this rumor.

And it's a hurtful thing.

Not asked Sam to play checkers with him.

Sam says, No, I don't want to play with him.

Okay, so that asked and play checkers with him.

Sam says, No, I don't want to play with you.

Were you guys thinking six bullying?

Well, I think that you're right.

I think that, you know, Matt asked Sam to play

checkers, and Sam says, no, I don't want to play

with you.

I think in this case that, um you know, that

is just saying No, I don't want to play with

you now.

It's not necessarily gonna make uh, Sam feel happy, but

I don't think that that was intended to her end.

He just maybe didn't want to play checkers.

So OK, Scott has missed catching a ball during a

baseball game.

My baby brother could have caught that.

Yells Alexis from across the field.

Alexis makes at least one remark like this just got

every game Scott wishes it would stop.

So let's take that apart a little bit.

So Scott missed the ball.

He didn't catch it.

And this person is always saying, you know, my brother

could have caught that.

They're yelling at him from across the field.

All right, so he wishes it would stop.

What do you guys think?

Behind the back, face to face?

I think it's based to face.

And I think that this is where the recognizing, refusing

and reporting is so important.

So we recognize this is happening every game.

Okay, I obviously wanted to catch the ball.

I just didn't have the ability in that moment to

catch it.

It happens.

This person is always goading me What does that mean?

Well, they're always making me feel worse than I need

to. And so I recognize it.

And I'm gonna refuse this.

I'm gonna refuse to allow this to keep happening, so

doing report it.

So what do you guys sick?

Should we report this, or is it something that maybe

could be addressed by using our our skills?

Teoh, just express how we feel and tell them what

they want, what we want.

So, hey, you know what?

I'd like you to stop.

And if you really want me to catch that the

ball, then maybe you can help me practice, cause I'm

not sure what I'm doing wrong.

But you, you know, always yelling or or make fun

of me for not catching the ball is not gonna

help me and help our team.

Right? So you do that and that's going to really

throw that personality go.

Whoa! You know, maybe I didn't realize that my comment

was hurting his feelings.

Maybe he's right.

Maybe I should help right and said, These skills are

so important to resolution.

We'll just do one more Drum says, Let's invite Zach

to play ball with us at the park.

Then let's be their roller blading.

Instead, we can have a good laugh when he shows

up, Ready to play ball.

So what you guys think behind the back pulling are

face to face.

Well, Zach is going to show up, right?

And so what?

He gets there.

He's been given information that was meant to make him

look bad.

Right? So somebody drum organized a silly plan to basically

make his friend show up and play the wrong sport.

So guess what?

You show up in that situation and you're ready to

play ball and they got roller skates.

You're gonna be eliminated.

You're not gonna be allowed to hurt.

You're not gonna be able to play that game with

them. You're not gonna have the right equipment and to

your good feel left out.

That's really mean.

So I mean something like that.

You've recognized what's going on there, right?

So we recognize that, Zack, you know, Hey, let's have

Zach to play but say we're going to the park.

But then let's actually be roller skate.

But let's just like, tell him we're gonna play ball.

So that's not physical rate.

We're not.

He's a physically bullying this this person.

But he's orchestrating.

Or, in other words, he's organizing an event to take

place that is designed to hurt and and make that

person feel left out.

Do you see how that's just as hurtful, if not

even more hurtful than that kind of bullying?

That's face to face?

So, guys, these are the type of skills, the things

that are so important as we move forward and get

older that we use those three R's.

And as we move forward, it's important to understand the

difference cheat, conflict and a fight right, because you're gonna

have conflicts.

But those are different than fights, and we're going to

talk about that more next time.

You guys have done a wonderful job.

I hope you have a great week and I will

see you next class.

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Face to Face

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