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Discovering your Family Tree
Transcript of Discovering your Family Tree
Career development…concerns [the whole person] in the ever-changing contexts of his/her life. The environmental pressures and constraints, the bonds that tie him/her to significant others, responsibilities to children and aging parents, the total structure of one’s circumstances are also factors that must be understood and reckoned with. In these terms, career development and personal development converge.
-Wolfe and Kolb, 1980
Jacobsen talks about some of the ways our family can influence us regarding our values and expectations given....
The expectations our parents have for us but also for themselves based on their own experiences in the world (both economically and psychosocially),
Our birth order and what role we play in our family based on the roles that are available and the apparent needs
How about those parents...
“The strongest psychological influence on children is the unlived life of their parents.” -Carl Jung
What education eluded them?
Was the career they hoped for not available to someone of their gender, class, race?
Did illness, accident, or poverty interfere with their career plans?
Did they follow their parents’ or society’s advice instead of their own desires?
Indirect or Direct and why?
DUTY – obligation vs. invitation; saying “no” is not an option
GENES – predictable, repetitive traits that give a family a sense of distinctive, inherited identity
DESTINY – family’s belief that fate or divine providence determines each generation’s careers
Family Expectations Manifested....
We have roles not only in our families, but in all of our relationships with others. These roles include the obvious ones:
Birth Order and Family Needs
What do these roles mean?
Each child’s skills and traits will be seen in light of the family’s current economic and psychological condition, as well as the talent already available to the family team.
Parents assign jobs through the selective attention, approval, or relief they telegraph emotionally in response to their children’s behavior
The parent who feels least satisfied with life, and most urgently in need of help, determines the first child’s assignment.
As each child is born, she or he inherits the next unfilled task.
We may internalize these roles, regardless of how
true they are to our actual self
The Peacemaker The Loner
The Funny One The Rebel
The Golden Child The Oldest/Middle/Baby
The Responsible one The Difficult one
The Scapegoat …and many others
So how does this relate to career?
What are your parents’/family’s expectations about your career?
Were these spoken or unspoken?
What your parents actually said
What your parents implied but didn’t say
What your parents meant
What you yourself really want
There are a number of questions about your family and career beliefs for which your interview may provide answers. These include:
● View of men’s work…women’s work
● Attitudes toward success, failure
● Which jobs were seen as valuable…which were scorned
● Attitudes about money, leisure, work ethic
Your interview can also help you understand your own beliefs regarding:
● Who are you most like? Who are you most unlike?
● What are the repeated patterns and how have they affected you?
● In what ways has your family impacted your career choice? Were you aware of their impact?
But also! It might not be all bad!
Some families may want...
Us to have what they did not
To protect us
To ensure our stability and happiness
To share their knowledge/life experience
To support us...in whatever way they know is best
While many of us trust our parents or families have our best interests at heart,
the key is understanding the difference
between our own definitions of success and happiness, and others.
Q: What are some factors that you think have influenced your knowledge of, and plans regarding, careers?