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Mindful Curiosity and Compassion, AAA-Style

Dept of Life & Death and Health Psychology Counseling
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Maria V. Hunt

on 15 July 2015

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Transcript of Mindful Curiosity and Compassion, AAA-Style

Creating Micro-moments that Matter
Mindful Curiosity and Compassion, AAA-Style
Attention
What we attend to grows... the circuitry of our brain.
Attitude
Attitudes shape our experience because they effect our brain... physically and physiologically!
Maria Hunt, PhD.
MeWe Mindfulness, LLC

Information gatherer
Appraiser
Attention
Attitude
Aim
Discerner/
Actor
Aims are about what we truly WANT in life. They reflect what "matters most" to us.
Aim
Stable

Open

Vivid
... without judgment
Curious Compassionate Positive
Inspired

Determined

Generative
Neuroscience tells us:
Soft, relaxed focus
1. Our brain is an energy guzzler.
2. Our brain operates on autopilot to "save energy."
3. Our brain is a future-oriented meaning-maker.
4. Our brain can be hijacked by emotion.
5. Our brain is a social brain, which desires "belonging."
6. Out brain is a plastic brain, shaped by experience.
7. Our brain likes novelty and closure.
8. "What we attend to grows."
3-min Breathing Space
1-min Energizer
Thank you!
AAA Approach to Mindfulness
Notice this
Spend time here
9 "active ingredients"
First, provide an overview and then focus on CURIOSITY and COMPASSION, two of the active ingredients of our Attitude.
No motivation
Extrinsic motivation
Intrinsic
motivation
I don't care.
You think I should.
I think
I should.
I appreciate the outcome.
I appreciate the process.
I enjoy the process.
I do not do anything.
I do this for you...
and then stop.
I do this for me... and keep it up!
Tipping Point
AIMs deliver our strongest sustainable motivation provided... they are autonomously selected
2-min Miracle
Words that make me smile
Curiosity
17%
29%
22%
14%
31%
20%
46%
Valium
Mundane
Work
/School
Hurt
Meaningful
Enjoyable
Kahneman, Krueger, Schkade, Schwarz, & Stone (2004). Science, 306, 1776-1780.
Search for more than what I:
already know
already assume
already expect to happen

Todd Kasdan (2009)

Make novel observations
Recognize the unexpected
Search for fine distinctions
Expose the gap between what we
know and what we WANT to know

Make NOVEL observations
Search for what is unique when things look similar, and search for what is similar when things look different.
Recognize the unexpected
Take time to notice and appreciate life's little surprises
Search for nuance
Look deeply into details to make fine distinctions
Expose the gap between what we know and what we WANT to know...
.. or want to know MORE about
Compassion
For Self

For Others
Sympathy
Sensitivity
Distress tolerance
Empathy
Non-judgment
Care for Well-being
Common
Attributes
Notice cues of pain
Care about the distress
Personally cope with distress
Can imagine what it is like
Want what' is good for self and others
Acceptance of "what is"
- Paul Gilbert (2009)
Compassion
Giving/Helping
Seeking/Receiving
Helper
Helpee
We need to give and receive!
Vagus Nerve
Nerve is highly sensitive to safety
We strengthen it with slow and deliberate outbreaths
Practice slow and deliberate outbreaths
What characteristics do we attribute to helping?
What attributes do we assign to "needing help"?
What attributes do we want to embody?
We tend to judge ourselves and our weaknesses harsher than we judge others... giving more compassion to other than to ourselves...
We have a tricky brain
Autopilot brain,
Stressed heart
Can get trapped in imagining, planning, and ruminating
Mindfulness gets us out of the loop of dis-ease
THREAT system
APPRECIATE system
1. Mindfulness
2. Common humanity
3. Kindness
Anticipatory
Dopamine
Embodied cognition exercise
WANT system
Just This exercise
Kristen Neff (2011)
Practice: "Of course..." with a half-smile
Common humanity
Kindness
Mindfulness
When we feel flawed
What qualities do you want to develop?
1. Mindfulness and AAA-style Mindfulness
a) Attention regulation: Stable, Open, Vivid
b) Emotion regulation: Curious, Compassionate, Positive
c) Self regulation: Inspired, Determined, Generative
2. The Need for Mindfulness: Autopilot Brain, Stressed Heart
3. The Curiosity Practices
4. The Compassion Practices
Awareness of moment by moment experiences as they unfold... rather than our ideas about our experiences

Non-judgmental awareness

Awareness without agenda
Mindfulness & Mindfulness AAA-Style
Awareness of our experiences in the present moment... rather than our ideas about our experiences

Non-judgmental awareness

Awareness with our AIMs in mind
"There are 20,000 three-second moments in a waking day."
- Daniel Kahneman
"The neurons that fire together, wire together.
Practice: 3- minute Breathing Space
They can change our relationship to "what is"... if our Aims are worthwhile and significant to us.
1-minute Energizer
What mindful curiosity and compassion initiate!
Practice sharing positive news...
in the form of CURIOUS item
Giver: Show item and tell what made it the object of your curiosity.
Receiver: Listen and then ask ONE question in the gap between what you know and what you want to know.
although there is a gender difference!
Men are more self-compassionate than women.
Hello, Old Friend. I know you. What do you have to tell me?
- Nhat Hanh
Practice:
Oh Hell to Oh well.
Regular curiosity and compassion exercises are good for our wellness and well-being.

They take micromoments to practice.

Do you want to express their qualities?
Maria Hunt, Ph.D.
www.mewemindfulness.com
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