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Rebecca Rampe

on 14 February 2017

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Transcript of Perfectionism

Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving to be your best.
Perfectionism is not about healthy achievement and growth.
Perfectionism is the belief that if we live perfect, look perfect, and act perfect,
we can minimize or avoid the pain of blame, judgment, and shame
. It’s a shield.
Perfectionism is a twenty-ton shield that we lug around thinking it will protect us when, in fact, it’s the thing that’s really preventing us from taking flight.
What is it?

Perfectionism is all about perception—we want to be
perceived as perfect
Ironically, there is no way to control perception. No matter how much time and energy we spend trying, it’s out of our hands.

Think about an area where you struggle with perfectionism.
This simple question can help us start to understand the fear that fuels the perfection anxiety: When it comes to my ________________ (house, body, work, mothering, etc.), I don’t want to be perceived as ____________________.
Where did those messages come from and how much of your life are you willing to turn over to them?
Where do you struggle?
It's not Self-Improvement

Perfectionism is
not self-improvement
Perfectionism is, at its core, about trying to earn
approval and acceptance
Research shows that most perfectionists were raised being
for achievement and performance (grades, manners, rule-following, people-pleasing, appearance, sports).
Somewhere along the way, we adopt this dangerous and debilitating belief system: I am what I accomplish and how well I accomplish it.
Please. Perform. Perfect
. Healthy striving is self-focused— How can I improve? Perfectionism is other-focused — What will they think?

Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it’s often the path to depression, anxiety, addiction, and life-paralysis.
Life-paralysis refers to all of the opportunities we miss because we’re too afraid to put anything out in the world that could be imperfect.
It’s also all of the dreams that we don’t follow because of our deep fear of failing, making mistakes, and disappointing others.
What dreams have you walked away from?
What creativity are you holding back?
There’s a popular quote that asks, “What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?” For those of us struggling with perfectionism, the rest of that quote should be “Then go out and do it because, in the end, failing is less painful than never trying.
The Costs
One of the best ways to overcome perfectionism is to create. Draw, paint, write, cook, color, take photos – whatever inspires you. Make a mess. Make it imperfect.
Perfectionists are often quick to say, “I’m not creative.” I’ve learned that there’s no such thing. There are only people who use their creativity and those who squander it. I’ve started painting and drawing in my journal.
Perfectionism is contagious. Be mindful of the messages that you’re sending the people around you – your kids, your partner, your co-workers, your friends.
Make “embracing imperfection” a project. If the house is messy or you’re late for church or dinner is overcooked, let yourself off the hook and celebrate being imperfect. Doing this has changed our lives
Take a class. Like most perfectionists I got to the point where I’d never do anything that I wasn’t already really good at doing.
That meant NEVER trying anything new.
Now I force myself to try new things and take classes. Dare to be awkward, goofy, and a little out of control. It’s terrifying but also liberating.

We need to be kind and tender with ourselves.
Most of us talk to ourselves in ways we would NEVER consider talking to other people.
We are critical instead of kind. We are judgmental instead of loving.
Perfectionism is ultimately a struggle for worthiness and there’s no better place to start than remembering that our imperfections and vulnerabilities connect us to each other and to our humanity.
Gifts of Imperfection-
Brene Brown

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