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Courtship in the Philippines:)

Source: Medina, Belen T. G. The Filipino Family. 2nd edition. University of the Philippines Press, 2001. Video source : http://www.youtube.com/user/MikeyBustosVideos?feature=watch

Ruth Cuerdo

on 23 January 2013

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COURTSHIP COURTSHIP and Courtship is a process whereby unmarried people and/or their kinsmen interact for the purpose of mate selection. Marriage
Patterns 2 ways in which courtship is carried out: a. by parental arrangement
b. by the arrangement of the couple

However,most courtship systems have
elements of both parental and
free choice of mates. In cultures where the focus is not so much
on the needs of the individual but those of the family, marriage is arranged through negotiations by parents, kin, and other intermediaries as in traditional India and China. In modern societies, courtship
arises out the basic need for
intimate involvement or close
relationship with others. Traditional Courtship In the Philippines, traditional courtship was participated in or controlled by parents and other kinsmen. This system was rooted in the Filipino view that marriage was a union not only of two individuals but also primarily of their families. Young people were not allowed to interact by themselves without chaperones to maintain family control over them. The common way to court a girl was by visiting in her house, where the young man had to be very courteous and respectful towards the girl’s family.

•The young man and woman were usually not given a chance to talk alone by themselves to prevent familiarity which would lead to “relaxation of virtue”. Serenading used to be one of the more popular means by which a man expressed his feeling to a girl of his choice. Other ways of expressing affection were by writing her love letters and giving her gifts. To prove to the girl and her family his perseverance and noble intentions, the suitor had to serve the family of the girl by fetching water from the river or well , and by chopping firewood for cooking.  If the suitor was too shy to court a girl, he used a go-between.

He had to be good at wooing for he had to be able to impress upon the girl that the suitor truly cared. Once the young man had informed his parents of his desire to get married, they would go to the girl’s house to formally ask her hand in marriage. After one or more visits, the girl’s family would finally “agree” to the marriage and the terms and details of the wedding were discussed.

•Bride-gift - is to be given by the groom’s family to the parents of the bride, usually consisted of a piece of land or a house or a sum of money. These gifts were actually intended to help the couple start their married life. Modern Courtship The process of modernization,
industrialization, and urbanization
which have gradually set in the ‘50s,
have brought rapid changes
in social economic structures
and altered the cultural
environment of the young.  There has been a shift
of emphasis from adult control to greater independence, individual achievement and
self-realization of the young. Today, there are many
opportunities for
young people to interact.
Coeducation has given
young men and women
the chance to meet and
interact with one another. Gifts may also be given, usually in the form of flowers and chocolates. The practice of serenading is fast becoming passé. Rendering service to the girl’s family is practically non-existent. The man usually visits the young lady in her house, and may also pick her up to and from school or office. Modern courtship need not be carried on entirely face-to-face. Young people can communicate through cellphones, and internet. Courtship in the
Philippines Source: Google images Source: Google images Source: Google images Source: Google images Source: Google images  The girl did not usually say “yes” directly but she had her way of letting him feel her acceptance of a sweetheart relationship. Traditional & Modern Courtship
Dating &Going steady
Cohabitation/ Live-in Relationship Courtship patterns differ only in the degree to which young people or their parents are socially sanctioned to arranged marriage. Moreover, the two individuals often engage themselves in long conversations, a testimony to the ease of communication among the youth in modern times. Source: Google images Source: Google images Source: Google images
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