Metamessages
Taking Credit for Your Accomplishments
- "I don't have that problem."
- "Here's some advice."
- "I have a problem."
- Americans don't like metamessages.
Metamessages
“What people really believe doesn't feel like a BELIEF, it feels like the way the world IS.” -Harry James Potter-Evans-Verres
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- Self-Promotion vs. Humility.
- Humility can be self-sabotaging.
- Self-Promoters can advance unfairly without realizing it.
Status-Oriented Styles
Considerate vs. Involved
Self-Worth
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- America is a Dignity Culture.
- Dignity Cultures are good at getting along.
- Remember that you have dignity.
Works Cited
- Assertive
- Aggressive
- Passive-Aggressive
- Submissive
- Manipulative
- Be quiet to pay attention vs. comment to show you're listening.
- Wait vs. Interrupt.
- Can shut people down when mismatched.
- clairenewton.co.za/my-articles/the-five-communication-styles.html
- forbes.com/sites/markmurphy/2015/08/06/which-of-these-4-communication-styles-are-you/#7ec7b27b1ecb
- lesswrong.com/lw/375/ask_and_guess/
- "You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation by Deborah Tannen". HarperCollins. 2010.
Ask vs. Guess Culture
Goal-Oriented Styles
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- Ask immediately vs. try to figure out the answer on your own.
- Feel fine with saying no vs. feeling bad.
- Look entitled vs. look wishy-washy.
- Personal
- Functional
- Intuitive
- Analytical
Communication Styles