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Academic Authenticity
'Allowing'
your highest potential
PhD in History IISH/Utrecht University: gender, sexuality, criminal law
2 Postdocs: NIOD and Willem Pompe Instituut Utrecht University
Negotiating for a 3rd currently
Research and teaching theme: 'Boundaries' | who invents them, who guards them, who tests them, who challenges them
and with what kinds of words?
Research methods: relational realism, discourse analysis, qualitative and quantitative data
Individual Coaching:
slowing down to catch up with yourself
Dr Anna Tijsseling
Workshops, Lectures, Courses:
raising awareness and re-membering the academy
Blog: Feel the fear and do it anyway
Authenticity Circles: carving out your niche; kindred spirits
Vreneli Stadelmaier
The Impostor Syndrome is the feeling that you do not belong in the position you are in because you are convinced you lack the competences which are required.
Rationally, you know you fit the bill, but you can't help feeling like an impostor nonetheless. You are afraid to be found out.
Anxieties concerning:
Attributing success to external factores (luck, the weather).
Attributing failure to yourself (as if you are omnipotent).
Two responses:
Awareness for both men and women are essential, actually. But since women are more prone to suffer from this syndrome, it is valuable to be able to address this issue in a group of people who identify as women.
So... what's up with gender? To enlist some important aspects:
Sarah Cooper (2018) How to Be Successful Without Hurting Men’s Feelings. Kansas City, MO: Andrews McMeel Publishing.
'I am
over the moon
that you are here'
5 times...
Devaluing you/ me
Feeling validated
Internal dialogue
'Gosh.. I feel that I can unwind a little, knowing that I am welcome'
'I can sense my breathing becoming slower and deeper. This is relaxing.'
'Gosh, she is phoney...'
'Srsly... You feel the need to address me like that?'
'She can't know if I am wonderful...'
'If she knew who I really am she would not say this so generally
Alert!
This assignment is not about 'right' or 'wrong'.
It is about observing without judging (or not judging the judging).
Slowing down to catch up with yourself
Third option = 'tapping into your 'I'':
'How do I feel about my being here?'
'What do I feel about her being here?'
On Congruency
From my training 'Authenticity on the Workfloor. The Basics':
Authenticity matters in your daily life. It leads to feeling relaxed, experiencing joy and to an open and adventurous outlook on the world (and your research).
A lack of authenticity harms us because we run the risk of burn-out, being out of touch with ourselves, and the risk of not operating congruently with our core values and deep beliefs.
We all 'know' incongruency. We have all said 'yes' when we felt 'no'.
Why? Incongruency shelters us from having to address our deeply uncomfortable fears.
If these are the reasons for behaving incongruently, we at least do not have to face those uncomfortable fears. We don't have to judge ourselves for it, but be(com)ing aware of it matters.
Rembember a recent situation in which you said 'yes' and felt 'no'.
This could be a very insignificant 'yes' to a not that important 'no'. It could also be a profound experience of incongruency.
Choose whatever you want to contemplate right now: you are safe, your notes are for your eyes only.
The only thing that is important: be raw and honest with yourself.
Three questions:
1. What was the situation at hand?
2. What made you say 'yes'? Which 'fear' did this 'yes' relate to?
3. What would you say to yourself now about this recent experience of saying 'yes' when you felt 'no'? What would you have needed hear to be able to feel and say 'no' in that situation?
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