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Conflict Management Flow Chart
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Conflict Management Flow Chart
By Nolan Nelsen
The Problem
Identifying the Problem
Your friend has lately been making a lot of inappropraite jokes inside of school. You know that if they keep making these jokes, they will get in trouble, but your friend doesn't like to listen. What should you do?
Wise decisions
Using the chart, here are some wise decisions to make.
In this situation it would be wise to:
- Talk to the friend by yourself or with others to help them realize the problem and what may happen if they keep making those jokes
- Get some adults or authorites involved in case they aren't willing to listen.
- Check your own heart and make sure you aren't looking for revenge or drama.
- Leave your friend or pray to God for help in case they are not willing to change for anyone.
Decisions
What can I control?
First, ask yourself the question: "Do I have control in this situation?"
What can I Control?
Check Your Heart
Yes/Some
Are you using your control in a way that is honoring to God and your authorities? Check the Romans 12:12-19 checklist to make sure.
Good Job!
Yes
You are using your control in a way that is honoring to God and others. This is an important step into finding what to do with the situation. Move on to the Matthew 18:15-17 steps.
Check Romans
No
You should check the Romans 12:12-19 checklist and make sure that your heart is in the right place. Then, come back and try again.
Ask for Help!
No
If you have no control in this situation, then it is time to sit down and ask God for help. Also, you could ask an authority that may have some more control to help with the situation, too.
Talk
Have you gone out of your way to talk with the person about the problem?
Matthew 18:15-17 Steps
How did it go?
Did it go well? Did they listen and try to help resolve the problem?
Yes
Great!
Yes
Now that they have tried to help or have resolved the problem, move on to the Romans checklist to make sure you have been controlling the situation in an honorable way to God.
Try again
If they have not listened, try asking the friend again, however this time go with a friend or two. Did they listen this time?
No
Great!
Yes
Now that they have tried to help or have resolved the problem, move on to the Romans checklist to make sure you have been controlling the situation in an honorable way to God.
Keep trying
No
Now that they have not listened, even with others to help, it is time to bring in an authority to help. Have they listened now?
Great!
Yes
Now that they have tried to help or have resolved the problem, move on to the Romans checklist to make sure you have been controlling the situation in an honorable way to God.
Other options
No
Now that they haven't listened, even with authorities involved, you may need to check the Romans checklist to make sure your heart is in the right place. Only then should you consider your options.
Try
If not, then go back and talk to the person. Then, answer the question again.
No
Check your heart
Romans 12:12-19 Steps
To make sure you're being honorable to God while sorting out the problem, you need to ask yourself: "Is my heart in the right place?"
Check Again
Great! Now that you know your heart is in the right place, it is time to ask: "Are you looking for a solution or are you looking for revenge?"
Yes
Make sure its peaceful
Solution
Good, now think about this: are you handling the situation in a way that encourages peace and avoids unnecessary drama?
Everything
Yes
Now that you are certain that you are handling this in the best way possible, ask yourself: "Have I done absolutely everything I can to help?"
Great!
Yes
Now that you have done everything that you can do to help in an honorable way, you hopefully have solved the problem! If not, then move on to Options for more help.
Look for more
No
If not, then you should look for some more honorable ways to deal with the problem. Then, come back and answer the question.
Check your heart
No
If you aren't trying to be peaceful, it is time to check your heart. Once you have found a peaceful way to deal with the situation, then answer the question again.
Check your heart
Revenge
If you are seeking revenge, then your heart is not in the right place. Try to figure out why you want revenge and then try to answer the question again.
Think
No
If your heart is not in the right place, then you should figure out what is causing that. Make sure that you are being humble, hopeful, and faithful. Then, go back and answer the question again.
Consider
Now that you have gone through all the steps, think about whether these following statements are true.
- You've owned all of your stuff in the conflict
- You've approached the solution humbly
- You've asked for forgiveness or tried to make it right
- They won't listen to your perspective
- They won't listen to witnesses
- They won't listen to or obey authorities
- They won't own their part of the conflict
- They won't respect your boundaries
- They keep doing the same thing
Options
Think
All/Some are false
If one of them or all of them are false, then you may need to check the flow chart again. Make sure that you have done absolutely everything to help the situation.
Think
If all of the following were true, then it might be wise to end your relationship with that person.