Caring for myself
and others in the midst of systemic trauma & oppression
Framework from Laticia Nieto's book - Beyond Inclusion Beyond Empowerment
Status, Rank & Power
Non Linear, Cyclical, Layers like an onion, work together
Status Rank & Power
Superficial Levels of Human Interaction
Handshakes, eye contact, voice volume
Status
Status
Behaviors, Interactions, Status Play
Assertive Posture, dominant, leads, always confident
apologetic, submissive, compliant, passive posture
Rank
Fixed, Rigid, less Dynamic
Rank
Systems Of Oppression
Agent/Target
Power
helps cut through social status and ranks
Spiritual, Ancestral, Creative, Internal
Personal Power
Resilience / Grit
You can oppress someone but you cannot take away their power
Power
community, mentors, loved ones, friends, self confidence
Target Group
Target Group
Helps to be in denial of the oppressive machine
To Approximate towards the agent group
Placate
or
Fawn
Survival
Survival
Every adult has been a target as a child. But for some people that is the only target experience they will have.
Internalized oppression.
Impacts sense of self.
To fit in and do what is expected.
Criticize other people to fit in. Respectability Issues
We contradict ourselves, we admit something is wrong but stay hopeful or give agents the benefit of doubt.
Beginning to realize that something is wrong, and are exhausted from survival skills
Confusion
Confusion
Presenting ourselves that will placate the agent group but also notice the way things are toxic or unfair
Skill to cope with Dissonance
mixture of knowing and not knowing how the machine is oppressive.
Still maintains internalized and horizontal oppression
"I do not understand why that happened to you, there must be a reason. Did you do something bad?."
Confronting, Story telling, Experience Sharing, Reading, Education, Mobilizing, Dismantling, Affinity Spaces
Empowerment
Sense of connection, purpose but also disappointment, rage & helplessness
Requires Effort , emotional labor, Energy.
Empowerment
Fall back on survival and confusion or use strategy skills.
CHOICE
small moments
Picking and choosing our battles
Strategy
Strategy
realize our limitations and the enormity of the oppressive racist machine
grief work, feelings based.
Re-centering
Solidarity.
inner power
Re-Centering
Is not agent centric.
AGENT GROUP
Agent Group
Solidarity
Solidarity
Allyship
Ignorance is a privilege
minimizing
gas-lighting
ignorance
Denial helps with shame, guilt and fear.
Indifference
Indifference
"I don't know anyone like that"
That's not really a thing!"
Distancing Out
"not my problem"
Distancing
Distancing Up
"they are so wonderful"
Distancing
Distancing Down
"they are dirty"
"We are all the same!!"
ignores systemic oppression
Inclusion
Inclusion
It is agent centric.
performative Allyship!
The good white
savior"
" I don't see color"
Understanding Systems of Oppression
Awareness
Awareness
Educating yourself
Being able to spit facts!
Know it in your bones
Using leverage and power you have to dismantle the system
Dynamic
Active
Solidarity
Leverage your power
Dismantle Systems
Fall Back, Be willing to lose your status and power
Reflection
Formative Stories
- Early Memories & Schemas it brought up.
Feelings?
Dissociation, Denial? Fatigue?
Agent Schemas
An Agent Identity
What do I do to over compensate?
Schemas & Feelings to consider
This one time...
Rage, Shame, Isolation, Guilt, Dissociation, Denial, Fatigue.
6 Part
Story
1. The Scene, Time & Place
Action Steps
What is a small action step for today based on your growing edges & what kind of support would you like to have you be accountable for the work!
Action Steps