Interpersonal Skills
YCTP, 2024
What are
Interpersonal Skills?
INTRO
People Skills; Soft Skills; Social Skills; Life Skills; Face-to-face Communication; We use them every day while interacting with others;
TODAY'S
SCHEDULE
Some of the most useful interpersonal skills
More about Emotional Intelligence
More about Negotiation, Persuasion and Influencing skills
Tips for Improving your interpersonal skills
Top Interpersonal Skills
DIVING IN
PEOPLE CENTERED
VERBAL COMMUNICATION
Qualities and capabilities that allow you to cooperate well with others during conversations, projects, meetings or other other work-related reunions.
Team Work
responsibility, honesty, active listening, empathy, collaboration, being aware of others
Tackling disagreements in a positive and constructive way.
Conflict Resolution
- listen, then speak;
- take time to reflect, breathe;
- gather everyone, hear all opinions;
- be impartial;
- address the issue before escalation - now!
Conflict Management Styles
STYLES
Collaborating Style: Both sides get what they want
Competing Style: Goal oriented authoritative approach. I win.
Avoiding Style: No confrontation, I give up.
Harmonizing Style: I give up because I do not want to make anyone angry.
Compromising Style: Nobody is fully satisfied or fully unhappy.
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (EQ)
Emotional Intelligence
- Perceiving emotions
- Reasoning with emotions
- Understanding emotions
- Managing emotions
Think about how emotions such as happiness, anger, fear, and sadness influence your behaviors and decision-making skills.
Different Levels
- Making better-informed decisions and solving problems
- Staying cool under pressure
- Managing conflicts
- Having evolved empathy
- Listening and adopting constructive criticism
- People will high EQ awareness avoid playing the role of the victim and take personal responsibility for their mistakes and are more open to opinions of others.
How it Helps
- being more self-aware (emotions and feelings)
- examine how you feel in each situation and what would be the best reaction
- recognize your shortcomings (if you tend to become overly angry, go out for a walk, cool down)
- do not make rush decisions - this could tamper with your long-term goal
- self-regulate (this teaches you to adapt do changing and difficult situations)
- work on your social skills - listen, look for non-verbal cues, avoid drama, try to understand others and focus on your goals.
How to Improve?
Improving Interpersonal Skills
Getting Better
TIPS
- Have a positive outlook on life and work - always look for positives;
- Know you boundaries and expect other people's experience;
- Get a hold of your emotions - be cool, calm and patient
- Build solid relationship with your colleagues;
- Practice active listening - it shows wisdom, experience and empathy;
- Put your phone away, make eye-contact and nurture human interaction;
- Avoid making uniformed judgements as it might turn you into an ineffective communicator;
- Always be mindful of your body language and posture.
Negotiation, persuasion and influencing skills
Negotiation
These are soft skills that include versatility in communication, persuasion, planning and cooperating.
Elements
Communication Skills - when trying to compromise, your asking and goal must be clear and constructive. This way you avoid misunderstandings and set your record straight.
Persuasion - you can nag about it, coerce or find a better way - get them want what you want. This you can achieve if you are keeping your promises, being reliable and taking responsibility, being sincere, genuine, and honest, in one word building your reputation.
Planning - consider different scenarios, be prepared, try to focus on the win-win situation and think about possible consequences.
- think of everyone as winners - show empathy
- know your audience and adapt your strategy and responses
- Listen attentively - knowledge is power
- be prepared and think about your body language - be confident
- discuss and take some time off (when possible)
- don't give away something without getting something in return (win-win)
Tips to Improve
Best alternative to a negotiated agreement.
Best second option that a negotiating party can take if negotiations don't go as expected.
KNOW YOUR BATNA