Introducing
Your new presentation assistant.
Refine, enhance, and tailor your content, source relevant images, and edit visuals quicker than ever before.
Trending searches
CM222BA: Week 2
32
The Person of The Helper & Helping Styles
CM222BA: Week 2
Helpers
“Effective helpers are well trained in the theory, research and skills that underlie their craft, but they also convey certain personal qualities that make them most influential and competent.”
- Jeffery Kottler
The Helper
Someone who is being trained in counselling skills should not be learning anything they did not already know -- what they should be learning is how to apply what they already know in a more purposeful and aware manner to achieve a particular result.
McLeod
Helpers
Growing as a Helper
Each helper brings oneself to the helping relationship.
Growing
Imitation
Who are people in your life who have helped you? What were characteristics or attributes of that individual that you valued?
Are there experiences you've had with helpers that have caused you to feel like you don't want to imitate them, or repeat what they've done?
Qualities of a Helper
Qualities
Kindness and Caring
Interpersonal Sensitivity
Self- Confidence and Poise
Flexibility and Openness
Noncritical and Non-judgemental
Wisdom
Morals and Ethics
Kottler, 2008
Relational Depth
“ A state of profound contact and engagement between two people, in which each person is fully real with the other and able to communicate and value the other’s experience at a high level.”
(Mearns and Cooper, 2005)
Self Awareness
Self - Awareness
People grow through experience if they meet life honestly and courageously. This is how character is built.
Eleanor Roosevelt
Self Assessment
Self Assessment
1. What are your strengths in a helping role?
2. What are your weaknesses?
EXAMPLE
#Truth
Illusory Superiority: When we believe that we are more talented than we actually are.
Insight
Openness to Change?
Awareness
How can this course help you become a better helper?
Strengthening our helping skills requires us to be aware, and be opened to change.
Be aware of the following things:
- Cognitive Conservatism: Finding people who view us the way we view ourselves. (This works if one views themselves positively, or negatively)
- Self-Delusion: If we are not viewing ourselves honestly, we will most likely fail to grow.
Learning Through Learning
A part of the the journey of becoming a helper, is giving ourselves permission to be helped.
This will look like:
- Self Reflection
- Challenging
- Changing
- Engaging
- Reflection
YOU.
Where do you fit in on the Dunning Kruger scale?
Discipling
Discipling
Being discipled and being a disciplier is a journey of interpersonal and helping skills.
The more permission you give yourself to be discipled, the better you'll be able to disciple.
Who is discipling you?
Discipleship Model
This course is a great time to begin practicing humility.
Helper Styles
- Counsellor
- Advisor
- Strategic Problem Solver
- Fixer of Person
- Therapist
(Palmer, 2011)
Lamp Lighters
Helper Styles
Water
Drawers
Helping Style Inventory
(Peter VanKatwyk, 2003)
Reflecting
1. What is one thing you've been challenged in class today?
2. If there was one thing you would want to reflect on, what would it be?
3. On a scale of 1 - 10, how open do you feel you are to challenging yourself, and creating space for change?