CM323AA: Week 3

Definitions:

"Being in touch with, aware of, and

monitoring the self of the therapist"

(Lum, 2002).

"Incorporating the professional self of what

one knows, with the personal self of who

one is"

(Dewane, 2005)

Effective Therapists:

• Have an identity
• Respect and appreciate themselves
• Are open to change
• Make choices that are life oriented
• Are authentic, sincere, and honest
• Have a sense of humour
• Make mistakes and are willing to admit them
• Appreciate the influence of culture
• Have a sincere interest in the welfare of others
• Possess effective interpersonal skills
• Become deeply involved in their work and derive meaning from it
• Are passionate
• Are able to maintain healthy boundaries.

(Corey, 2017)

Aspects of the Use of Self:

The Personal Relationship in caring

• Power Dynamics

• Compassion Fatigue

• Vicarious Trauma

• Self- Care

• The Person of the Therapist

• Self-Disclosure

• Transference

• Counter-transference

• Objectivity

• Self-Awareness

Use of The Therapist:

• Use of Personality
• Use of Belief System
• Use of Relational Dynamics
• Use of Anxiety

Dewane 2005

VITALS

V: Values

I: Interest

T: Temperament

A: Around the Clock Activities

L: Life Meaning & Goals

S: Strengths

Person Centered Listening

Requires:

• Sensitivity moment by moment
• Focused attention to client's constantly changing way of being
• Remaining present & focused
• Internally asking questions such as:
• what is being felt? What is the core messages that he/she is communicating? What is most alive?
• Not interrupting, jumping in, confronting, inconsistencies, etc.
• Temporary living, and moving about delicately in the client's life
• Temporarily - not permanently
• Keeping one foot in the client's world and one foot in your own world
• Let yourself flow into the client's being for period of time without while maintaining space for an objective perspective on what's happening in the session.

(Egan, 2014)

Present, and focused on the other

Being Present:

• Is synonymous with being aware and in deep focus
• Involves being open and receptive to another

Mind Chatter

A Way of Being

Relational Perception (Smith, 2017)

• Relational Perception explains what and how one thinks about relationships.
• Included within this are a number of aspects:
• Perceptions about the nature of relationship
• Beliefs about what aspects or behaviours one ought to prioritize in relationship
• Explanations of how a relationship functions or ought to function
• Perceptions about specific relationship experiences

Relational Action (Smith, 2017)

• Relational Action accounts for the actions one takes, or what one does in relationship.
• Includes:
• Actions and behaviours meant to exemplify various ideals and other relational perceptions
• Actions that are intended to elicit a reaction in another
• Actions that arise in response to another person

Relational Presentation (Smith, 2017)

• Relational Presentation explains how one is, or how one presents oneself in relationship
• How one represents or displays oneself when engaging relationally with another
• Includes:
• Ways of being that supplement or modify actions
• Builds on the notion of "Honest Signals"