Final Term Portfolio in PerDev— Group 4

Answer each question by circling the number that best reflects the legacy you have received from your parents. Then add up your score.

1. When you walked into your house, what was your feeling?

1. Dread 4. Stability

2. Tension 5. Calm

3. Chaos 6. Warmth

2. Which word best describes the tone of your home?

1. Hateful 4. Serious

2. Angry 5. Relaxed

3. Sad 6. Fun

3. What was the message of your family life?

1. You are worthless. 4. You are respected.

2. You are a burden. 5. You are important.

3. You are okay. 6. You are the greatest.

4. Which word best describes the "fragrance" of your home life?

1. Repulsive 4. Sterile

2. Rotten 5. Fresh

3. Unpleasant 6. Sweet

5. Which was most frequent in your home?

1. An intense fight 4. A strong disagreement

2. The silent treatment 5. A kinds word

3. Detached apathy 6. An affectionate hug

Results:

Above 24 = Strong emotional legacy

19 - 24 = Healthy legacy

14 - 18 = Mixed legacy - good and bad elements

10 - 13 = Weak emotional legacy

Below 10 = Damaged emotional legacy

POINTS: 20 – Healthy Legacy

Answer each question by circling the number that best reflects the legacy you have received from your parents. Then add up your score.

1. Which words most closely resemble the social tone of your family?

1. Cruel and abusive 4. Non-communicative but stable

2. Cutting sarcasm 5. Secure with open communication

3. Chaotic and distant 6. Loving and fun

2. What was the message of your home life with regard to relationships?

1. "Step on others to get your way." 4. “Mind your own business.”

2. "Hurt them if they hurt you." 5. “Treat others with respect.”

3. "Demand your rights." 6.“Put others before yourself.”

3. How were rules set and enforced in your home?

1. Independent of relationship 4. Inconsistently

2. In reaction to parental stress 5. Out of concern for my well-being

3. Dictatorially 6. In the context of a loving relationship

4. Which word best characterizes the tone of communication in your home?

1. Shouting 4. Clear

2. Manipulation 5. Constructive

3. Confusing 6. Courteous

5. How did your family deal with wrong behavior?

1. Subtle reinforcement 4. Severe punishment

2. Accepted in the name of love 5. Discussion

3. Guilt trip 6. Loving, firm discipline

Results:

Above 24 = Strong social legacy

19 - 24 = Healthy legacy

14 - 18 = Mixed legacy — good and bad elements

10 - 13 = Weak social legacy

Below 10 = Damaged social legacy

POINTS: 18 – Mixed legacy

Answer each question by circling the number that best reflects the legacy you have received from your parents. Then add up your score.

1. To what degree were spiritual principles incorporated into daily family life?

1. Never 4. Frequently

2. Rarely 5. Almost always

3. Sometimes 6. Consistently

2. Which word captures the tone of how you learned to view/relate to God?

1. Absent 4. Casual

2. Adversarial 5. Solemn

3. Fearful 6. Intimate

3. How would you summarize your family's level of participation in spiritual activities?

1. Nonexistent 4. Regimental

2. Rare 5. Active

3. Occasional 6. Enthusiastic

4. How were spiritual discussions applied in your home?

1. They weren't 4. To teach

2. To control 5. To influence

3. To manipulate 6. To reinforce

5. What was the perspective in your home regarding moral absolutes?

1. If it feels good, do it! 4. Dogmatic legalisms

2. There are no absolutes. 5. Moderate conservatism

3. Let your heart guide you. 6. Clear boundaries

Results:

Above 24 = Strong spiritual legacy

19 - 24 = Healthy legacy

14 - 18 = Mixed legacy — good and bad elements

10 - 13 = Weak spiritual legacy

Below 10 = Damaged spiritual legacy

POINTS: 21 – Healthy legacy

1. What were your scores in the emotional, social and spiritual legacy evaluation?

• My emotional legacy evaluation score was 20, and my spiritual legacy evaluation score was 21, indicating that I acquired healthy legacies from my family. My social legacy evaluation, on the other hand, received just 18 points, indicating that it is a mixed legacy with both good and poor aspects.

2. How do these scores reflect your home atmosphere?

• My family's legacy ratings skew toward the healthier standard of legacies, which I believe accurately reflects our home's joyful and wholesome atmosphere. My family always speaks to one another in a lighthearted manner, but not in a condescending manner. We are not fond of expressing affection, and we frequently argue about petty matters. However, we show our love by exchanging knowledge and having a good laugh every day. There have been difficult times in my family, but my parents did their best to raise us with strong principles and ethics. And I consider myself extremely privileged to be a part of this family.

3. What is the legacy you have received from your parents and siblings?

• Several principles have been passed down through the generations in the family, a combination of good and negative standards that still have a strong influence on me now. One of them is my parents wish for their daughters to become successful career women who can contribute to the family's financial troubles while also making my parents proud. Another heritage that has been passed down to us is abstinence and the importance of never allowing love to affect our talents as individuals. In other words, irresponsible decisions are not tolerated in our conservative household.

4. How do you plan to give a legacy when you start your own family in the future?

• To begin with, marrying and starting a family are not on my to-do list. However, if I ever have a family, I will not subject them to the same depressing and humiliating experiences that I had. I'll instill in them the value of self-awareness and family dialogue. Before I leave a legacy, I want to make sure that my family is on board with it and that it will not jeopardize their sense of self-worth or independence. They won't grow to despise their house this way.

- In this unit, I learned that as human beings, our world revolves around the relationships we have established with the people who surrounds us. We are socially inclined which means that there is a need for social relationship or social interaction to live. In every decent way we try to analyze how we are related to the people around us, we're always left with the most basic reason- that's to live. Whatever source of information we are reading, it always specifies the value of social relationship with a person or groups of people around us. Another thing I learned from this lesson is that we only have couple of small institutions: Families, friends, partner and organization. If it teaches us how to value these small institution, it will surely help us how to value those larger and more meaningful institutions around you.

-Assessing our relationship does not only mean that we have an "Okay" relationship. It means examining each of our primary relationship and make an honest assessment of their quality at a time. For me, There are many ways of assessing the present state of my relationships, I begin to assess my relationships by asking myself what a good relationship looks like for me. Often when people create relationships with others, they don't ask that question. They just say that they are friends, but they never look closely at the relationship as a whole. When we know what a good relationship looks like, then we can begin to define what we want and what we need to get out of it. By this, we can also figure out if we are in a toxic relationship or in a healthy one. Second, is by looking at the quality of the relationship and examining what needs improvement. Because, when we understand what we truly want from the other people in our life, we can assess what kind of role they all play. Lastly, is by simply looking at the way people interact with one another. There is a need to look at the comfort level between two people. Their proximity needs to be seen, how close they are standing to each other. Their postures when they talk to each other helps guide a lot. Simply by asking questions from myself whether a certain person gives me positive or negative vibes. Whichever it may be helps to assess what’s going on.

- There are so many ways to improve and strengthen our relationship not just with our partners but with everyone. Personally, I have several plans in order to improve my relationship. First, is give people my time. Giving time to people is also a huge gift. In a world where time is one of the most precious things, we are trying to fit in more than one lifetime, and, despite the fact that we don’t always have the time to give to our loved ones, friends, and even to our colleagues, a simple "Hello, How are you? " can make our relationship stronger and healthier. Second is build and develop empathy. Empathy builds a strong connection between people. It is a state of perceiving and relating to another person’s feelings without blaming or trying to fix the situation. Empathy also means “reading” another person’s inner state and interpreting it in a way that will help the other person and offer support and develop mutual trust. Lastly, one of the most important way that I am planning to do is to accept and celebrate differences. One of the biggest challenges we experience in relationships is that we are all different. And at some point, our own differences have led to harsh arguments. We perceive the world in so many ways. There are stumbling block that we come across when we try to build relationships, that's why it is so difficult to create a good rapport with each other. Thus, accepting ones differences means that we feel more comfortable when we feel that people “get” us and can see our personal point of view. Life, however, would be very dull if we were all the same and, the novelty of sameness soon would wear off. So accepting and celebrating that we are all different is a great starting point.

• Bachelor's Degree in Civil Engineering

• Technical skills, project management, communication skills, creativity, and critical thinking are needed to succeed in this job.

• The job of civil engineering is in demand in the Philippines.

• Civil Engineers generally receive excellent benefit packages, including health and life insurance, vacation, sick leave, and pension plans.

• Estimating sea levels, enhancing disaster management through infrastructure resilience, reducing soil erosion, improving building energy efficiency, managing groundwater, monitoring the health of infrastructure, reducing traffic congestion, improving construction productivity, enhancing construction site safety

• The average pay for a Civil Engineer is PHP 579,937 a year and PHP 279 an hour in the Philippines. The average salary range for a Civil Engineer is between PHP 412,376 and PHP 725,378. On average, a Bachelor's Degree is the highest level of education for a Civil Engineer.

• You need to finish a Bachelor’s Degree in Arts or Sciences, take the law school’s entrance or admission test, enroll in your chosen law school, you need to submit documentary requirements, finish Juris Doctor Enroll in a Review Center or DIY, Take the Bar Examinations and pass it, take your oath and sign the Roll of Attorneys.

• Commercial awareness, attention to detail, communication, teamwork, information analysis and research, organization, and creative problem-solving.

• Lawyers are in demand in the Philippines.

• Wide selection of career options, Financial Rewards and Emotional Rewards, Mental Stimulation and Intellectual Challenges, and work environment.

• Long hours, stress, new technologies, an increasingly competitive job market, Clients' Reluctance to Spend Money on Legal Services, "Guilty" clients, assumptions about your character.

• 37,800 PHP to 131,000 PHP

• High school diploma

• Industry skills, interpersonal skills, leadership skills, energy, commitment, and demonstrable passion.

• The job of a personal trainer is in demand.

• (Almost) unlimited earning potential, flexible working hours, influence positive changes in peoples' lives, true job satisfaction, and become your own boss.

• Getting used to having an irregular income, missing your usual social life because your working hours are the opposite to your friends, getting enough sleep, and clients canceling appointments.

In summary, civil engineering is a high-paying job with many perks and the second simplest job to get amongst the three jobs that I've mentioned. The lawyer is a high-end job with a lot of perks along with its complex process into achieving that job and is the hardest job that I've mentioned. The personal trainer is the simplest job on my list due to having simple requirements, and if I'm lucky I might get a lot of money given the right situation, the right clients, and the flow of the job. Although it is the simplest job, it has some cons too which may lead to bankruptcy.

First, I imagined my life 6 to 10 years from now like how I wanted it to be. To determine my needs, I thought of my mother as my basis and for my wants, I thought of my dreamed situation after having my work. Since I am interested with how money works, I learned to observe how my mother budget our weekly expenses so I already have an idea about the costs of needed products and also sometimes, I ask them about the amounts of land properties depending on its area and the cost of building a house. My parents also educate us about the fundamental parts of being independent. To determine my wants, I write what I really want to have in the future and searched for its amounts.

Seeing the amount of my outlined needs and wants, I think that I should lessen the amount of my wants by pulling out the least necessary things. Since I really dream to build and have my own residential property, I reckon that I should save 60% of my monthly salary for my dream house while the rest will be for my daily expenses. I decided that the wants I have like buying accessories, expensive clothes, and going to vacations will mostly cause me to suffer in the succeeding years so I think I should pull it out of my list or reduce my budget in those areas. Therefore, before meeting my wants, I should save money to buy house and lot first and have another alternative source of income like building a business to have a foundation of living.

Basically, starting a job means starting at the bottom so it might be hard sustaining what I have envisioned but I believe that it is realistic and I will be able to achieve it in the future. As for the changes of my plans, I used to dream about visiting places or enjoying my life first before settling down but I thought that if I do that, it will take longer for me to be fully independent from my parents given that my salary may be lower than what I expect it to be. With these, I decided to delay some of my wants until I will become financially stable and will prioritize my needs first especially having my own house/place since renting for too long will be a waste of money.

I realized that I am still really far from the real struggle of life. This activity made me seriously think about my plans in the future and the difficulties that I may encounter. Now that I determined my needs and wants, I came to realize that the salary of my dream job may actually sustain my basic needs but I think it will be so hard to handle emergency cases or have my desires. I used to project that after getting a job, I will be able to do the things that I wanted but practically, the reality is beyond my expectations. My parents always remind us or advise us to really have another source of income because that was how they lift our lives and be able to sustain our education and needs and I think I should really need that.

1. How was the process of picking out significant life events done for you? What were your considerations/criteria in choosing which event would be included in your timeline? Who are the people that were significant to you on the events that you have picked to include?

In picking out significant life events, it was really hard to decide which and what will I put in my timeline since the future is yet to come up. In choosing events that I will include in my timeline, I tried to imagine the most realistic situations that may come up. The people who are significant on my timeline events would be my family and friends. My family still supports me financially with my education, while my friends support me emotionally. The two of them hold a crucial role in my decision-making. Also, I could seek advice from my sister, who is also a science teacher now in CMU. I really admire her for finishing college as a cum laude while taking up a bachelor of secondary education, majoring in Biology. She also landed in the top 6 in the licensure examination and got a decent job less than a year after graduating.

2. What were your thoughts and feelings while you were trying to determine high and low points in connection to the events that you have chosen?

I still had a feeling of doubt. The future is an unpredictable and uncontrollable event. Even if I plan ahead of time, there’s still something that will get in the way. But having a plan for my chosen career path is always a good thing since I cannot predict what will happen.

3. How did you go about placing your "future" highs in the timeline? How did you go about plotting these future events? What were your present/past references for it if any?

I did some research and sought advice from people who pursued education as a major in college. After obtaining some information from other people's experiences about my chosen career path, I tried to imagine putting myself on that scene.

4. How do you feel about your timeline?

The content isn't absolute and perfect. It may still have flaws. There is still an abrupt possibility that my calculations are wrong. But I'm still happy that I already have a plan for my future.

5. What are your overall realizations after the activity?

I have realized how important it is to plan early for your career. It is beneficial to come up with your career planning as it gives you the much-needed direction and makes it clear where you see yourself in the future. It makes you aware of your own path that you will take in your college days, first job, early career, mid-career, late career, and retirement.