Turning to more parental involvement, i.e. arranged marriage, may be able to save people from the hassles of dating and make for happier marriages.
Early Adulthood: Emotional & Social Development
Marriage
Effects of Social Media in the Workplace
Dating in Other Cultures
Erikson's Intimacy vs. Isolation is true throughout all cultures--Having relationships is important to all people
91% of employers use LinkedIn, Facebook, and Twitter to screen candidates
A Better Way to Find Love?
Speed Dating
As of our current strategies towards dating, 40-50% of our marriages end in divorce.
Brian J. Willoughby, assistant professor in the School of Family Life at Brigham Young University...
arranged marriages remove the anxiety, which comes with dating, about "is this the right person?"
Speed dating has become the instant dating solution for many young people who tend to lead busy lives.
Reactions & Outcomes
The two factors that influence differences in dating across the world are
- 1960: women= 20; men= 22
- 2013: women= 27; men=29
- 1960: 68% of 18-24 year-olds were married
- 1960: average bride and groom knew each other for 6 months prior to wedding
- 2008: 26% of people in their 20s were married
- 2012: average length of courtship before engagement is 3.6 years
Future Employers and Social Media
"screen for deal breakers"
something not as easy to do through dating
62% of people say single women having children is bad for society; that a child needs a mom and dad to grow up
Reasons why possible employers may reject you
decline in marriage has changed family life: only 45% say the family they have now is as close as the family they grew up in
Current Employers and Colleagues
- Negative posts about previous employers
- Posts about drug or alcohol use
- Inappropriate photos w/ drugs, alcohol, weapons, or partial nudity
- Strong opinions on controversial issues
- Inappropriate language in posts
1960: 5% of births were to unmarried women; 2008: 41%
40% of people say children of single parents face more challenges.
51% of people say children of same-sex marriages face more challenges
42% of people say children of divorce face more challenges
Roughly 70% of employers have rejected a candidate because of something posted on social media
Positive Effects on Careers
31%: financial stability
People have expectations for when major events in their life will take place.
87% to make a lifelong commitment
Reasons to get married
59%: having children
81%: companionship
93%: love
Dating Customs Across the Globe
- Sites like LinkedIn make job finding easier
- Keeping in touch with past colleagues
- new job opportunities
- references easily accessible
- Helps employers find the right type of people to represent their company
Ways to Avoid the Negative Effects Social Media can have in the Workplace
living together (cohabitation) has nearly doubled since 1990.
44% of all adults (30-49) have cohabited at some point in their life. About 64% of those adults say thy think the living arrangement is a step towards marriage
- Some employees are required to give their user name and passwords of social media sites to employer
- Colleagues on your friends list may report inappropriate activity to human resources or management
67% say in order to be ready for marriage it's important for a man to be able to support his family; only 33% say the same for women.
Central and South America
Dating is rare here because most marriages are arranged by parents
Normal expectations for young adults today such as finishing school, getting married, and having kids occur later in life than they used to.
- Be aware of the message you portray through social media
- Keep your posts as neutral as possible on controversial issues
- Don't use social media as an outlet to vent and rant about problems
- All interactions with others should be respectful
- Be prepared to stand by the things you post online without regret
- Use Scambls
Dating starts at age 15 here and when teens become of age to date, they usually do it in groups. Going dancing is a popular thing to do while dating.
People will go to a speed dating event and are given a number.The host explains how everything will work and then people with the same number will meet and talk for about four minutes. One of the groups will then continue to rotate until everyone has met.
Dating is against the law. Boys and girls are separated until they are of dating age when their families introduce them to each other.
Teens date in groups until age 18 or 19. It is often customary for girls to ask guys out on dates as well as pay for the date.
Throughout Europe, dating is often done in groups. In Finland, large groups (as big as 30) will go to a movie together. In Spain, people join groups called pandilla with other people of the same interests. Online dating is widely accepted and utilized in the UK.
Dating usually does not start until college years. Boys are the girls out and pay for the date.
Sample Speed Dating Questions
Would your Facebook and/or Twitter pass the test of what employers see as appropriate?
Judging another individual's romantic interest
People ask this question to reveal the professional status of someone.
To sum it up: less people are getting married, and waiting longer to do so
This type of question reveals background.
This can reveal a lot about personality and whether your leisure activities match.
This an important skill to have when choosing a mate to pursue. A study was done to predict the interest of others on speed dates. Males and females predicted interest equally, but it was easier to predict the males interest in a female.
Do you want to marry or have you ever been married?
This will reveal if you are both moving in the same direction.