How to Grow a Strong Foundation for Families

How can these help me?

Stress models

Knowledge is the most powerful thing we have in our life. By knowing how the family experiences stress, we can try to prepare for it by instilling resilience in our children and families. Having a strong family before stress hits will help how your family moves through the stress. The family is the most sacred entity we can have in this life. We need to build a strong foundation for it by the knowledge we gained from this class family stress and coping. Especially since we have used have a reflection journal.

ABCX and Double ABCX Model

Our thoughts and emotions are ruled by the concept that our brain never shut off. What we think effects our daily lives, every minute. We try to problem solve through our thoughts. We cannot go through a crisis without cognition. This contribute to understanding family stress response in that we all can understand that we all thinking differently and not all of our thought are completely rational in the midst of crisis’s. Knowing this we can help our family members in being understanding that we all are different and our thinking process can lead us to different plans of action.

Family Decision making

Journal Entry

I have come to like the Double ABCX model more than hills original ABCX model because this model look at the different factors that can influence the actual crisis. My favorite part is that the perception of the stressful is part of this model because there are many times that we have learned in this semester how powerful our thoughts are.

• Have council
• Meet regularly at the same time
• Always open with a prayer
• Discuss item to a census
• End with prayer, thanking Him and dedicating their efforts to bring His purposes to pass
• Share refreshments together.
• Share affection and love for everyone

The Branches of a Strong Family

Risk and Resilience

Adapting to adversity. Resilience is the ability to roll with the punches. When stress, adversity or trauma strikes, you still experience anger, grief and pain, but you're able to keep functioning — both physically and psychologically.

One thing we have often been taught is to bloom where we are planted.- By Elder Stanley G. Ellis

Journal Entry

I looked back on my life growing up and I’m not sure how my strong need/ resilience came from to push through my trials came about. I think that sometimes I’m pushing through these trials of life is so I can tell people who told me I couldn’t do what I wanted in my life.

Gospel principles

My beloved brothers, sisters, and friends, in the recent June Conference President Spencer W. Kimball counseled young people, leaders of youth, and all Church members to take a careful inventory of their habits. “Change,” he said, “comes by substituting good habits for less desirable ones.” Then he added, “You mold your character and future by good thoughts and acts.” ( https://www.lds.org/general-conference/1974/10/good-habits-develop-good-character?lang=eng )

We can help ourselves in our desire to do what is right if we put ourselves in places and participate in activities where our thoughts are influenced for good and where the Spirit of the Lord will be comfortable. President Monson ( https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2014/04/be-strong-and-of-a-good-courage?lang=eng )

Mindfulness

Mindfulness means maintaining a moment-by-moment awareness of our thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations, and surrounding environment.

Stress And Coping

As defined by Merriam Webster dictionary, stress as a noun can be pressure or tension exerted on a material object and/or a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or very demanding circumstances. When I looked at stress when it is considered a verb it is stated as subject to pressure or tension.

Mindfulness also involves acceptance, meaning that we pay attention to our thoughts and feelings without judging them—without believing, for instance, that there’s a “right” or “wrong” way to think or feel in a given moment. When we practice mindfulness, our thoughts tune into what we’re sensing in the present moment rather than rehashing the past or imagining the future.

Coping is defined as the top layer of a brick or stone wall that is usually higher on one end than the other to allow rain to be carried off easily. This is a great way to look at coping because we need to be able to have the stress or rain be able to run off into somewhere. We need the ability to escape the stressors of life by coping which is relief for a brief moment or the idea that this stress isn’t here for long periods of time.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

believes that our thoughts have and effect on our actions and how we react to stressful situations in their life.

*Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is a form of psychotherapy that treats problems and boosts happiness by modifying dysfunctional emotions, behaviors, and thoughts