Live,
Laugh,
Love!
Details of Events
2015
Detail of Events
1987-2014
Adulthood
45-65
Events & Conditions:
- In April 2015 a new house cost $294,900.00*,
- the average income per year was $44,200.00
- Hilary Clinton announces Presidential Candidacy
- The Walking Dead is most popular television show
Living/Socioeconomic:
- Husband and I are comfortable.
Key Relationships:
Dreams & Ambitions:
- Returned to school to become a counselor.
- Help others.
Main Memories:
- Helping youngers daugheters prepare for prom. Great memories!
- Got married at end of 2014, honeymoon.
- Establishing a household with husband.
Authority Figures:
Ericson:
- Generativity vs. Stagnation, establish our careers, settle down within a relationship, begin our own families and develop a sense of being a part of the bigger picture.
- Success in this stage will lead to the virtue of care.
- 1st Grandson born, Braiden (Bray) Filewood (Sep 26, 2014)
- Married my best friend, Charles H. Osborn (Oct 4, 2014)
- It is my goal to live out the rest of my days with a thankful, compassionate heart.
- Be a good wife, mother, and grandmother.
- Finish school but never stop learning.
- Have a career that matches my heart and makes a difference in this world.
- Help others.
Our HOME!
Mr. & Mrs. Osborn
10/4/2014
Events & Conditions:
- In April 1981 a new house cost $118,100.00*,
- the average income per year was $50,389.00
- Iran-Contra - Reagan security advisor Ollie North was part of a plan to help anti-communist Contra guerrillas in Nicaragua with funds from Iran
- The Cosby Show is most popular television show
Living/Socioeconomic:
- Traveled a bit with military till 2000.
- Moved back to Michigan in 2000.
- Air Force 88-90
- Army 92-99
- Clerical work since.
Key Relationships:
Dreams & Ambitions:
- Wanted to be a good wife/mom.
Main Memories:
- Fighting endometriosis, ovarian, cervical cancer
- Having children against all odds. Singing, reading, and playing with my children.
- Becoming a grandmother.
Authority Figures:
- Military - my superiors.
- Spouse
Ericson:
- Intimacy vs. Isolation, Successful completion of this stage can lead to comfortable relationships and a sense of commitment, safety, and care within a relationship.
Young Adult
18-45
- Married Patrick M. Hayes (Dec 18, 1987)
- Join US Air Force (Mar 18, 1988)
- Leave Air Force (May 25, 1990)
- Give birth to Madison Jayde Hayes (Sep 15, 1990)
- Give birth to Payton Mitchell Hayes (Jan 14, 1992)
- Join Army (April 25, 1992)
- Divorce Patrick, (Nov 1992)
- Dad Died (Nov 1, 1995)
- Marry Shane M. Schmitt (Jul 31, 1996)
- Give birth to Sarah Elizabeth May Schmitt (May 21, 1997)
- Give birth to Victoria Anne Schmitt (Sep 20, 1998)
- Broke Hip carrying Victoria down steps (Aug 1999)
- Separate Army (Oct 19, 1999)
- Diagnosed with Endometriosis, Stage 4 (Jan 2000)
- Mom Died (Oct 3, 2001)
- Full Hysterectomy & cancer eradication (Oct 3, 2003)
- Divorced Shane (Jan 2006)
- Married David M. Myers (Mar 2006)
- Sister Killed (Aug 2008)
- Divorced (Sep 2010)
- 1st Granddaughter born , Kayla (Kaylala) AnneMarie Filewood(May 15, 2010)
- 2nd Granddaughter born, Serenity (Renni) Reign Cass (Sep 4, 2012)
- 3rd Granddaughter born, Karli Filewood (Apr 14, 2013)
- I proposed to Charles H. Osborn (Sep 21, 2013)
Details of Events
1976-1981
My Life Map Reflection
Detail of Events
1981-1987
Adolescence
Age 12 - 18
Events & Conditions:
- In April 1981 a new house cost $84,700.00*,
- the average income per year was $46,205.00
- Rubik's Cube, Donkey Kong, Frogger (arcade), playing with He-Man and the Masters of the Universe action figures were how time was spent.
- Dallas is most popular television show
Living/Socioeconomic:
- We lived in Flint, Michigan
- More Stable than early childhood.
Key Relationships:
Dreams & Ambitions:
- Join Air Force
- Do well in school
- Marry Patrick
Main Memories:
- Dad & Aunt helped me understand mom's addiction to alcohol is an illness.
- Walking into hotel room to clean it, found dead man with top of head and brains blown off.
- Senior Prom, Graduation, & Open House
Authority Figures:
- Teachers - I always felt smart in school.
Ericson:
- Ego Identity & Role Confusion, adolescent may feel uncomfortable about their body for a while until they can adapt and “grow into” the changes. Success in this stage will lead to the virtue of fidelity.
Events & Conditions:
- In April 1976 a new house cost $46,800.00,
- the average income per year was $46,548.00
- The laser printer was invented.
- Kool-Aid man began appearing in commercials for Kool-Aid
- All In The Family popular television show
Living/Socioeconomic:
- Lived with multiple family members from 8 - 12.
- We moved at least 1 time each year
Key Relationships:
Dreams & Ambitions:
- Around age 12 I decided I wanted to be President of the United States
- I aspired to continue to do well in school.
- Decided I would graduate from High School, unlike my mother, and her mother.
Main Memories:
- My 6th grade teacher recognized basic 6th grade math was not challenging me. He taught me outside of the curriculum with an Algebra book.
- I read a lot of books - they were my escape from reality.
Authority Figures:
- Teachers - I always felt smart in school.
Ericson: Industry (competence) vs. Inferiority: a balance between competence and modesty is necessary. Success in this stage will lead to the virtue of competence
- 14, Joined Reserved Officer Training Corps (ROTC) in High School, decided on Military as career
- Ran away from mother's house.
- Brother's Dad became foster parent so I could live with my brothers
- 15, Met first boyfriend.
- Ran away. Dad's wife hit me.
- Lived in Hotel
- 16, moved back to foster family.
- broke up with first boyfriend
- 16, Started dating first husband
- 17, Engaged
- 17, Signed first Military Contract
- 18, Graduated High School
Ericson: Ego Identity vs. Role Confusion
- I became independent, but wanted the stability in family.
Childhood Continued
(6-12)
Jadene
- Age 7, Needed surgery on back, hips, and legs. Mom refused to allow it.
- School was my escape. School bullies were easier to deal with than my mom.
- I learned to enjoy reading because I discovered I could immerse myself into other worlds.
- Abandoned by my mother at 8 yrs old.
- Stayed with various family member from 8-10
- Lived with Aunt for a year, 10 - 11
- Moved back in with mom at 11.
Ericson: Industry vs. inferiority
- learning reading, writing, arithmetic - teachers take important role.
- peer group takes on significance - forming self esteem.
- through school I was able to gain confidence in my ability to achieve goals.
Tina M. Osborn
Details of Events
1969-1975
Events & Conditions:
- In April 1969 a new house cost $25,900.00*,
- the average income per year was $46,449.00
- Carol Mann wins LPGA Raleigh Ladies Golf Invitational
- Laugh-In is most popular television show
Living/Socioeconomic:
- We lived in Flint, Michigan
- We moved at least 1 time each year
Key Relationships:
Dreams & Ambitions:
- Wanted mom to stop drinking
- Do well in school
Main Memories:
- One Easter Sunday, mom made matching
dresses for her, my sister, and myself.
- Mom left me, 5 yr old, to watch sister, 6 yrs old, for 2 days.
Authority Figures:
- Teachers - I always felt smart in school.
Ericson:
- Trust vs. Mistrust, Success in this stage will lead to the virtue of hope. Failing to acquire the virtue of hope will lead to the development of fear.
- Autonomy vs. Shame, Success in this stage will lead to the virtue of will. A delicate balance is required from the parent .... they must try not to do everything for the child but if the child fails at a particular task they must not criticize the child for failures and accidents (particularly when toilet training). The aim has to be “self control without a loss of self-esteem” (Gross, 1992)
- Initiative vs. Inferiority, A healthy balance between initiative and guilt is important. Success in this stage will lead to the virtue of purpose.
4/27/1969
Tina Marie Chapman
Early Childhood
Age 0-5
- Born in Flint, MI
- April 27, 1969
- Born to Joy, married to an Army soldier during Vietnam War.
- 4 1/2 months premature
- Mother was told I would never walk, talk, and I would be "retarded."
- Didn't go home for 1 month - Just to come back two weeks later for 3 months.
- Leg braces applied when starting to walk. (Picture Forrest Gump)
- My Leg braces were removed. Age 5
- Abuse became evident to others (As earlier as age 2)
Ericson: Development of Trust, Autonomy, & Initiative vs. Mistrust, Doubt, Guilt
- Instead of forming hope I learned anxiety, heightened insecurities, and an over feeling of mistrust in the world.
- Instead of becoming confident I lack self-esteem, and a sense of shame or doubt in my own abilities.
- I was not allowed to be a child; I learned feelings of guilt for “being a nuisance”.