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this is on the borrows.
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A newlywed couple.
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My name is Colton Peterson.
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Let's jump into the borrows life.
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The family stage that I chose was a newly married
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couple. The Barrows are a newly married couple.
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They live in an apartment because they decided to rent
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because they plan to be saving for the future.
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They have been dating for two years prior to their
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marriage and eventually they want to start a family.
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Sarah's wanting to pursue higher education but she is worried
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about the finances that will cost her to be able
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to attend higher education.
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Roger is a 25 year old male who works at
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a local car dealership and he has a badge related
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degree in business.
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Sarah is a 28 year old female who works two
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jobs, one at a local bar and another at a
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restaurant. Her highest education level of the G.
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E. D.
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Some of the challenges that newlyweds faces debt and finances.
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Newlyweds usually are people who are younger and fresh out
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of college.
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So this could lead them to being overworked very early
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in their life.
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This is a problem that usually happens earlier in their
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life. I it can't happen later in their life when
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but for example um in my case the Barrows are
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both freshly out of college for roger so he has
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a bunch of debt along along with him and this
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can put his wife a disadvantage because she is Working
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two jobs so she doesn't I want to bring the
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burden of finances onto him since he already has so
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much debt along with him but she's also worried about
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bringing on more debt because she wants to pursue higher
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education balancing work and family.
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That's gonna be hard, especially if both individuals are working
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multiple jobs because they might not be able to take
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time because they need the money to pay bills.
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Uh This is a problem sometimes not only in lower
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classes by the higher class as well because one individual
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might. Mhm.
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Um choose work over family and this can lead to
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complications in the family or in lower class settings.
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Sometimes family members might not be able to get time
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off because they won't be able to pay bills that
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are necessary time and how to spend it.
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This situation can be with either family or kids, but
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for my specific family example, their freshly married and then
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we'll have to figure out each other's schedules.
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Which can be troubling in the beginning.
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This can be troubling in the beginning because when their
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newly married uh there's a bunch of schedule changes, especially
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when you move in with your significant other.
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That just has to be talked out in the very
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beginning. And it can be lead to complications if it's
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not talked out prior to dividing household tasks.
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That's gonna be tough because some people won't want to
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divide tasks for household work or one partner doesn't want
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to contribute nothing at all.
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I can give a personal example of how we divide
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household task and my family, my grandma loves to my
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lawns. That's the one thing that she chooses to do.
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And then my grandpa likes to vacuum.
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Um it's equal work but it's also comes down to
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communication and what the your significant other prefers in the
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halls and families of origin.
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This can cause a problem with the newly newlyweds, especially
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if there's a cultural distance because some families will place
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strong bonds with their family in certain cultures.
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So for newlyweds, sometimes a cultural aspect can bring a
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complication to their life, especially if there are strong bonds
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within the family that they have to consider because if
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their significant other appraises their family very highly they will
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want their families respect and that's something that the other
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significant other has to keep in mind.
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So some strategies for the borrows the first strategy that
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is important that they are transparent one another's life because
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make sure to communicate if there are any issues in
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their life.
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The second strategy is for the other partner to be
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able to understand that they are team and an individual
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since they previously previously didn't live with each other.
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This can be a new experience to both of them.
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And then we'll have to come to an understanding that
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asking for their partners help is okay.
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Talking about different cultural backgrounds is important as well because
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if there's certain cultural aspects that need to be known.
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This should be done prior, especially at the marriage is
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done with the parents of mine the final strategy is
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just making sure that they have time for one another.
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That that is outside of just coming home from work
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and resurging one another with dates and special events.
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Therapy is important not only for the individual but for
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the couple as a whole.
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Because of the couple are not able to resolve their
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issues. This can lead to further conflict in the relationship.
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And some options might be easy, such as just talking
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to their significant other.
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According to Gartman, one of the therapy medicines that can
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be offered as the Gottman therapy method, which brings in
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science and common sense approach.
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It's developed for couples to break through and resolve conflicts
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when they feel stuck, increased respect, affection and closeness and
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generate greater understanding between the both of them and keep
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Their discussions calm and productive just to comment on the
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last one.
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Sometimes if yeah, conflict.
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It's okay to have conflict in relationships.
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I don't think it's a think that's common when he
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talked about in relationships regarding them because everyone wants to
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see themselves as like the perfect couple and when everybody
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grows up, we all have this perfect notion of we
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have to do certain things but life doesn't work out
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in a perfect way and there will have to be
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drawbacks and yeah, middle lining for both parties to consider
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when they get into a marriage.
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I hope you guys enjoyed my presentation