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Hi. All this is my final communication knowledge speech, and
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I decided to do it under the category of interpersonal
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communication. And I just found it the most interesting for
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me personally because I felt that overarching category.
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Um, it really hit home with me.
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I felt like I could connect to it more than
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the other concepts that were taught in class.
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Um, my first category actually is D t R.
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Which stands for define the relationship, so defining the relationship
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can be good.
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Um, in a lot of cases, it clears up some
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confusion and misunderstandings.
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But in certain situations, like, uh, romantic relationships, at times
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it can be really challenging, and it conduce more harm
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than good.
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I would say, um, it really just depends on who
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is in the relationship.
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But I know personally that friends of mine are at
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a place where they have high levels of insecurity and
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they are inadequate.
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Thio handle defining the relationship.
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And, um, not taking it personally when somebody doesn't reciprocate
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the the same level of energy when it comes to
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that topic, so it can make one person depend on
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the significant other for the response in this matter.
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Um, it, like, some people may not want to define
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the relationship yet, or they feel too insecure to say
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anything. Um, so it can It can be pretty damaging.
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And, um, the social and exchange development relationships.
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Ah, book that I found actually online, um, talked about
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that dependency.
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And I talked about how damaging that could be to
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relationships that air Onley blossoming or going through initial, um,
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stages of relationships and some personal idioms that I found
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over in, um over in chapter six was, uh, things
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like, Oh, baby or, um, sweetie, Or all those words
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that people find, uh, to call their significant other that
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other people might find unappealing.
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So defining the relationship and using those personal idioms, um,
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can be a little bit scary for some people because
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they may feel that they're judged by socially by other
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people. Um, and it may lead Thio interpersonal conflict.
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Yeah. Yeah.
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Now our next category is interpersonal conflict.
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Now, this is something that can happen if, uh, those
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d tr scenarios, um, get out of hand, which it
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can be.
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And I've seen it happen.
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Uh, two friends of mine and myself.
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Um, in romantic relationships.
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For example, Um, generally, it's generally rooted in insecurity and
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confusion. That's what I've seen from my friend.
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She wanted Thio take their relationship to the next level
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who are romantic relationship.
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And that didn't go so well.
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The other person wasn't a reciprocating as well as she
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liked Thio have him be, um, and for interpersonal conflict.
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Another thing is that it may resort to avoiding the
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significant other or using passive aggressive behavior.
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I've seen them both happen in different scenarios.
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Um, that is just rolling some personal experience from a
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circle of friends of mine.
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And Chapter six actually describes solutions to get out of
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this interpersonal conflict such as collaborating, accommodating and compromising.
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Um, in chapter six, uh, there is some more, um,
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Cem Mawr advice for people who are entering that personal
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interpersonal conflict and who want to resolve it with the
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least amount of damage possible.
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So I highly recommend doing that because it's very challenging
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being a relationship that doesn't reciprocate that D t r.
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Um, Now, social penetration theory.
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Um, I actually didn't know this one.
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I I didn't know the name of it.
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I've heard the reference, uh, to the Shrek movie from
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Chapter six and the communications in the real World textbook.
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Um, I just I described the onion peel off, although
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not directly cited in the text book, Um, I think
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that this d tr to interpersonal conflict is through social
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penetration theory.
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So that's how I connected the dots there.
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Um uh, if someone displays insecurity concerning d tr, this
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can unravel some significant self disclosure.
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Actually, um, and it may not have developed to be
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super clear, um, in the relationship prior.
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So it's it can be a very challenging subject.
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Thio come across when it comes Thio going through that
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stage of unraveling the layers actually off the onion and
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how that impacts the relationship through this, um, through this
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development. Yeah, So I believe that social penetration theory represents
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all of this, and it can do a lot of
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harm. Um, defining the relationship at time.
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It really just depends who is in the relationship.
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And here is my references Page.
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I hope that this helped a little bit, um, to
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inform you about how this can be kind of damaging
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thio certain groups of people.
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And although it can be very great for clarity, it
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is not always the best solution for a developing relationship