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welcome. I'm Christina Lang, Sam, and this is my final
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project for STS 4410 called This is Me.
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You start off with my personal assessment findings.
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First off is a social Media diary.
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I learned that I use social media as an informal
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way to communicate people with people without the strings attached
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that have face to face with conversation would have.
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And I prefer to help on a phone call because
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I use avoidance as a bad coping mechanism.
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And text messages are very easy to avoid Next.
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Going over the paraphrasing practice assignment attended after this paraphrasing
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practice assignment, I started incorporating it into my everyday life,
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specifically with my partner.
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Very raising has allowed us to improve our communication skills.
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Disagreements become easier to parse through because we're able to
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fully listen to the other person.
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Next, cultural awareness.
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The culture I chose to investigate this assignment was time
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culture. Guyana is a melting pot of cultures due to
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countries troubled history of being slaves and then indentured servants.
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Guyanese culture reflects, um, influence in many different cultures, including
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but not limited Thio, African Indian, American, Indian, Creole, Chinese,
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Latin American and even Dutch They're matriarchal culture that emphasizes
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in authoritarians parenting style, and they use direct and informal
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communication for all members.
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Accept the nature where they used direct formal language.
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I learned it's always important to ask questions, especially when
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you're investigating and learning about other people's culture.
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Next year you are the Djuhari window score.
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I had never heard about this before.
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Um, but my Djuhari I mean, my solicit feedback score
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was 30 on my willingness to soft dispose score was
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15, which lands me almost in the blind area, but
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still very open.
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Next, we're gonna perception checking.
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I had to jump to conclusions before getting the whole
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story. And so I learned that asking clarifying questions.
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Yeah. Next, we're gonna go over five concepts I learned
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in class First is mindless listening.
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It's a low level communication that isn't always negative.
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That is very important for long, for paying attention for
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long periods of time.
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In contrast, mindful, listening is complete and undivided attention and
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is important for establishing healthy communications and showed respect.
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Healthy balance of both of mindless listening and mindful listening
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is key thio maintaining um relationships both personal and professional.
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The next concept is a de escalatory spiral.
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I learned, Um, that occurs from destructively symmetrical communication, and
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it happens when both partners with dropping each other instead
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of facing the conflict construction cement Cherie is key to
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preventing and mitigating de escalatory spirals.
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Next topic I learned about is emotional labor.
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Um, that's the process of managing and sometimes suppressing emotions
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to make others more comfortable.
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I never had a name for this feeling, Um, until
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I read the chapter and I learned about it and
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I was like, Ah, that's it.
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That's what I'm feeling.
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Emotional labor next round, like a value thio evaluative or
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a motive language.
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Um, this announces the speakers.
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Feelings about the subject.
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For example, my Republican grandfather calls me a radical feminist
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because he disapproves of the quote unquote feminist agenda on
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use the word radical to announce his feelings.
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Next concept.
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A self serving bias.
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So this is a term that we as people tend
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to be nicer when we're judging ourselves, vs when we're
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judging others, Um, so we have a result.
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If it's a good result, it's because I took credit
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for it like I was a full reason.
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And if there's a band result, then, you know, obviously
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there was other people.
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Other factors self serving bias can come into play in
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personal relationship was, well, professional, professional relationships.
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And it's important to understand and look for that violence
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Next we're going to for personal professional applications.
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Um, we're gonna start off with assertive language.
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Um, I learned that women are more likely to use
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less assertive language than men, and the sort of language
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or statements that clearly expressed thoughts, feelings and wants amusing
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person sort of language would be incredibly helpful in my
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professional life, as I'm a small woman who people tend
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to not take very seriously.
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Um, a sort of also language can also help in
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my personal life is I'm more likely, um, Thio add
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less to my emotionally reload by expressing explicitly to my
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partner what I would like next topic is nonverbal communication.
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So non verbal communication is something that I've always struggled
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with due to PDS, PTSD as well as a D.
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H D.
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Diagnosis is, um, but I've learned that I have to
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look for non verbal cues for conversations such as, um,
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people's eyes moving away or a sigh or shift, and
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that's usually when it's my turn to speak.
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This has helped my professional life.
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A ZX.
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I'm an interesting conference meetings.
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Next is a communication climate and confirming communication, which describes
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direct or indirect communication that conveys value, is incredibly important
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for creating positive and supportive communication climates, either professional or
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person. Next is positive.
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Self talk is incredibly important because our language shapes our
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reality. Phrases such as I can't do that or I'm
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too tired set standards for ourselves.
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Subconsciously, this has applications in both my professional and my
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personal. Last but not least, identifying emotions is incredibly important.
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I learned in this class side a low, effective orientation,
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which means I tend to avoid or normal emotions, and,
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um, and I'm working to identify my emotions.
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I old apart so difficult situations, personal and even my
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professional life as a social worker.
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Like I mentioned earlier perception, checking is incredibly important because
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asking for clarification before jumping to inclusion allows for open
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and not offensive communication.
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So is incredibly important for my personal life.
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Is a social worker as well as my personal lives
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with my partner as well as limit on that is
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the end of my presentation.
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You cannot have a positive life and a negative mind.
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Thank you