Be an Upstander!

BE COURAGEOUS

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Assert Yourself

Humor

Avoid

Self-Talk

Own It

Be An UPstander!

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Sometimes it is best to ask other people for help, especially in a threatening situation.

Seek help if other strategies aren't working.

Remember when you tell a grown-up what is happening it isn't tattling, you are "reporting" the issue.

Who can you go to?

The best way to do this is by using an "I statement"

An "I statement" is worded like this:

(Name of Person),

I feel____________

when you__________________________

please_________________.

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-Speak strongly and firmly!

-Face person directly

-Look person straight in eyes

-Use good choice of words

-Don't stand too close or too far

-Stay calm

Remember that the person WANTS to make you upset. So, instead of getting mad, try using a sense of humor, in a positive way.

Be ready with a joke OR

say something totally silly and/or ridiculous.

Don't make fun of the person.

Remember, walk away.

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-Walk Away

-If you don't yet feel confident asserting yourself....

PRACTICE PRACTICE PRACTICE.

-Doesn't always work with group bullying

This is all about CREATING A DISTRACTION!

Taking Action Against Bullying

Feeling good about yourself is your best self-defense. If you don't appreciate yourself, the bully will try to talk advantage of you.

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Rehearse mental statements to avoid being "hooked" by the person's words.

Try to stay away from the person as best as possible. Avoiding works, because you are not near the person who is bothering you.

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Use positive self-talk in ALL strategies.

-Best for when you are alone.

-Join with others rather than staying by yourself, bullies tend to bother those who are by themselves.

Deflect a put-down by "owning" it

and then walk away. Sometimes what they say may be partly true.

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An example would be that if you are made fun of for wearing glasses, you could respond by saying , "All the better to see you with."

Combine this with humor strategies such as, "Yeah, this IS a bad haircut. The lawn mower got out of control this weekend."

Combine with assertiveness, such as, "Yes, I did fail the test and I don't appreciate you looking at my paper."

Try It for Yourself

Use the Strategy Guide

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practice these strategies in any order, in any combination, or numerous times.

You can use these individually or while standing up for another person.

If they aren't working, quickly leave the situation, you can always try again.

-You will be divided into groups of three or four

-You will be given a situation in which an individual is being picked on or bullied.

-Each participant will play a role- bully, bystander, UPstander, and the person being bullied.

-In each scenario, you will demonstrate using one or two of the HA HA SO strategies.

-When you are done, you will perform your skit for the class, who will then guess which strategies you used.

You did it.

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What ROLE do YOU play?

Do you have the courage to stop bullying in it's tracks?

YOU!

It's time to be courageous and learn to be an UPstander.

the ability to do the right thing even though the wrong thing seems easiest or has the least opposition.