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How to stop worrying and start living

Always wanted to do this presentation..for myself, and hopefully it can help other people, as it helped me

Dmitriy Burtsev

on 4 August 2011

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Transcript of How to stop worrying and start living

How to How How to stop worrying and start Living Based on the book written by Dale Carnegie Presentation is created by Burtsev Dmitriy 4.03.2011 I found this book accidentely, while reading "how to make friends and influence people". I can't say that i am very emotional person, but i have been through some not very pleasent moments in my life. But once, i faced the situation when which pushed me to an edge. I even remeber that i was thinking about suicide..just.. for a couple seconds. While this period i lost 6 kg within 3 days, as long as a remember, was so depressed.
After a couple weeks, i got a bit better, and i desided to teach myself not to worry. I mean, it is not possible to not to worry at all, but to minimize tention, exci-tement, agitation and anxiety is very possible!
All in all it is one of the most significant aspects of being health for god's sake. Intro After reading this book, i started feeling myself way better, i won't lie, saying that i cured instantly by this book, but after some period of time, 2-3 month i was renewed. It could help me to prevent initial stress, when "steel was still very hot". I highlighted most useful information in the book, in my opinion, which i will put in the presentation.
I am sure it is not gonna be very entertaining presentation, but i promise, if you have never read this book, you will like the presentation alot!

PS. Most of the quatations in the presentation helped some people to overcome worry. Chapter 1 Live in "Day-tight compartments" "Our main business is not to see what lies dimly at a distance, but to do what lies clearly at hand" Touch a button and hear, at every level of your life, the iron doors shutting out the Past - the dead yesterdays. Touch another and shut off, with metal curtain, the Future - unborn tomorrows. .... The future is today, there is not tomorrow. Did Dr. Osler mean to say that we should not make any effort to prepare for tomorrow? No. Not at all. But he did go on in that address to say that the best possible way to prepare fir tomorrow is to concentrate with all your intellegence, all your enthusiasm, on doing today's work superbly today. That is the only possible way you can prepare for the future. Today's bread is the only kind of bread you can possibly eat.

"Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." "If a ship has been sunk, i can't bring it up". If it is going to be sunk, i can't stop it. I can use my time much better working on tomorrow's problem than by fretting about yesterday's. If i let those things get me, i wouldn't last long. Good thinking deals with causes and effects and leads to logical, constructive planning.

Bad thinking frequently leads to tension nervous breakdowns. "One step is enough for me"
/one of my favourite expressions, can be explained by other one..

"One grain of sand at a time. One task at a time"
/helped to accomplish tasks in more efficient manner, and to do work
without confused and jumbled feelings. I want you to think of your life as an hourglass;
You know there are thousands of grains of sand in the top of the hourglass; and they all pass slowly and evenly through the narrow neck without impairing the hourglass. You and i and everyone else are like this hourglass. When we start in the morning, there are hundreds of tasks which we feel that we must accomplish that day, but if we do not take them one at a time and let them pass through the day slowly and evenly, as do the grains of sand passing through the narrow neck of the hourglass, then we are bound to break out own physical or mental structure. I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon - instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today. "How strange it is, our little procession of life!
The child says, 'When i am a big boy.' but what is that?
The big boy says, 'When i grow up.' and then grown up , he says,
When i get married' But to be married, what is that after all? the thought changes
to 'When i'am able to retire.' And then, when retirement comes, he looks back over the landscape traversed; a cold wind seems to sweep over it; somehow he has missed it all, and it is gone. life, we learn too late, is in the living, in the tissue of every day and hour." I had been making twenty thousand dollars a year; but i was glad now to get a job for thirty dollar a week.
No more worry for me - no more regret about what had happened in the past - no more dread of future.

"My life has been full of terrible misfortunes most of which never happened"
"Think, that this day will never dawn again" Do i get up in the morning determined to "Seize the day" - to get the utmost out of these twenty-four hours? Not spell checked yet Chapter 2 A magic formula for solving worry situations Finally, common sense reminded me that worry wasn't getting me anywhere.. Step1: I analyzed the situation fearlessly and honestly and figured out what was
the worst could possibly happen as a result of the failure..
/no one was going to shoot meor put in jail..!) Step2: After figuring out what was the worst that could possibly happen, i reconciled myself to accepting it, if necessary..
/even if i loose my job, i always can get another position! Step3: From that time on, i calmly devoted my time and energy to trying to improve
upon the worst which i had already accepted mentaly I probably would never have been able to do this (reduce losses at a factory)
if i had kept on worrying, because one of the worst features about worrying is that it destroys our ability to concentrate. When we worry, our minds jump here and there and everywhere, and we lose all power of decision.

..acceptance of what has happened is the first step in overcoming the consequences of any misfortune..

When we have accepted the worst, we have nothing more to lose. And automatically means - we have everything to gain! Millions of people have wrecked their lives in angry turmoil, because they
refused to accept the worst Then, on sunday night, i happened to pick up the booklet of how
to stop worrying, which i had been given in my Carnegie class in public speaking. I started to read it, and came across the story of Wills H. Carrier. 'Face the worst i said.' So i asked myself, 'What is the worst that can happen if i refuse to pay up (blackmalied), and these blackmailers turn their records over to the District Attorney?'

The answer to that was: 'The ruin of my business - that's the worst that can happen. i can't go to jail. All that can happen is that i shall be ruined by the publicity'

I then said to myself, 'All right, the business is ruined. I accepted that mentally. What happens next?'

Well, with my business ruined, i would probably have to look for a job. That wasn't bad. I knew a lot about oil - there were several firms that might be glad to employ me... I began to feel better.

The blue funk (паника) i had been in for three days and nights began to life a little.
My emotions calmed down... And to my astonishment, i was able to think.

I was clearheaded enough now to face step 3 - improve on the worst. As i thought of solutions, an entirely new angle presented itself to me. If i told my attorney the whole situation, he might find a way out which i hadn't thought of. I know it sounds stupid to say that this hadn't even occured to me before - but of course i hadn't been thinking, i had only been worrying!....eventually everything turned out very good, D.A. say that this blackmail racket had been going on for a while.. So, Rule 2 is: If you have a worry problem, apply the magic formula of Willis H. Carrier
By doing these three things: 1. Ask yourself, "What is the worst that can possibly happen?"
2. Prepare to accept it if you have to.
3. Then calmly proceed to improve on the worst. What Worry May Do to You CHapter 3 Those who do not know how to fight worry die young. Businessman who do not know how to fight worry die young, and so do housewives and horse doctors and bricklayers.

You don't get stomach ulcers from what you eat. You get ulcers from what is eating you.

Fear, worry, hate, supreme selfishness, and the inability to adjust themselves to the world of reality - these are the main stomach ulsers causes.

What shall it profit a man if he gains the whole world - and loses his health?

More than half of our hospital beds are occupied by people with nervious troubles.

Caused by emotions of futility, frustration, anxiety, worry, fear, defeat, despair. Plato said "the greatest mistake of physicians make is that they attempt to cure the bodywithout attempting to cure the mind; yet the mind and body are one and should not be treated separately" Unpleasant emotions such as those caused by worry, fear, nagging... may upset the body's calcium balance and cause tooth decay. The most relaxing recreating forces are a healthy religion, sleep, music, and laughter.

Have faith in God - learn to sleep well - love good music - see the funny side of life -
and health and happiness will be yours.

I went to the mirror. And when i looked in that mirror, i saw what worry was doing to my looks! I saw the lines it was forming. I saw the anxious expression. So i said to myself, 'You have got to stop this at once? you can't afford to worry. The only thing you have to offer at all is your looks, and worry will ruin them!'

Heart disease is the number-one killer in America today. During the Second World War, almost a third of a million men were killed in combat; but during the same period, heart disease killed two million civilians - and one million of those casualities were caused by the kind of heart disease that is brought on by worry and high-tension living.

The Lord may forgive us our sins, but the nervous system never does.

Most of us are stronger than we realize. We have inner resources that we have probably never tapped.

I am not going to worry! I am not going to cry! And if there is anything to mind over matter, i am going to win! I am going to LIVE!

I am not so idiotic as to imagine that merely smiling can cure cancer, but i do believe that a cheerful mental attitude helps the body fight disease.

Face the facts: Quit worrying, then do something about it! Rule 1 If youwant to avoid worry, Don't stew about the future. Just live each day until bedtime Rule 2 a. Ask yourself, what is the worst that can possibily happen if i can't solve my problem?
b. Prepare yourself mentally to accept the worst - if necessary.
c. Then calmly try to improve upon the worst - which you have already mentally agreed to accept. Rule 3 Remind yourself of the exorbitant(great) price you can pay for worry in terms of your health. Those who do not know how to fight worry die young.
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