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Speak up and Be Safe

Healthy Relationship and Dating Violence
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TPAP ACRS

on 10 April 2013

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STATISTICS Teen Peer Advocate Program What is Dating Violence? Thank you! SEXUAL HARASSMENT
VS
FLIRTING

Girls that are sexually assaulted
before age 16 SPEAK UP & BE SAFE
....END THE SILENCE NOW Asian Counseling and Referral Services
Teen Peer Advocate Program

Phone: 206.774.2489
Email: deannah@acrs.org
Web: www.acrsteenadvocates.org

Add us on Facebook: "ACRS TPAP" :)

Guys that are sexually assaulted before age 16 ABOUT SEXUAL ASSAULT & SEXUAL HARASSMENT PRESENTED BY:
THE EASTSIDE TEEN PEER ADVOCATE PROGRAM (ETPAP) OF ASIAN COUNSELING & REFERRAL SERVICES
4.17.2013 1 out of 3 teens will be in an
abusive relationship
by the time they
graduate high school. Dating/Domestic violence is the leading reason
why women go to the emergency room,
MORE THAN car accidents, muggings
and rapes combined. 4 out of 5 Boys and girls- report they have experienced some type of sexual harassment in school

This includes:
- Spreading sexual rumors about them
- Having their clothing pulled off or down in a sexual way
- Said that they were gay or lesbian
- Spied on them as they dressed or showered at school According to the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network, every 2.5 minutes a woman is raped in the U.S.


- These rapes are not necessarily new attacks, they could be repeated assaults.
- (EX) 3 hours = 70 women Safety at School be around friends
Inform School Staff
Change class Schedules PHYSICAL ABUSE SEXUAL ABUSE DIGITAL ABUSE EMOTIONAL
VERBAL
ABUSE 1 in 4 teens in a relationship called or texted their partner every hour between 12am and 5am 1 in 3 teens have a partner who texted them between 10-30 times per hour.



Thoughts? What is sexual assault? What is
Sexual Harassment? ETPAP Power and Control Wheel Anger and Emotional Abuse a. put downs, making victims feel bad about him/herself
b. humiliating victim, name calling
c. "crazy making" Intimidation a. Making someone afraid by using gestures, looks, and displaying a weapon
b. non verbal threats (physical displays) Isolation/Exclusion a. Limiting victims involvement in activities or with others (including peers and family members)
b. Using Jealousy to justify actions Minimize/Deny/Blame a. Making light of the abuse
b. shifting responsibility from abusive behavior by saying other person caused it. Peer Pressure a. Telling lies to a peer group about the victim
b. Peers making statements about the positives of the perpetrator or commenting on the positives of the relationships when they have no idea about the abuse Social Status a. Perpetrator using status/position to keep victim in relationship
b. Using money and material wealth to keep victim in relationship Sexual Coercion a. Manipulating or making threats to have sex Threats a. Abuser making verbal/written statements to harm victim's friends, family pets or property to instill fear in victims
b. May also include perpetrator threatening to harm self if victim leaves the relationship Safety
Planning Safety at Home Lock all windows/doors
Screen calls
Let family members pick up the phone Safety in Public Always be around people
Know your surroundings
Inform peers/family where you are going and when you will return Safety on a Date consider double-dating
before leaving a date, know the exact plans for the evening
make sure a parent or friend knows these plans and what time to expect you home
trust your instincts
be aware of the influence of drugs and alcohol
ask a friend to call and make sure you arrived home safely
assert yourself when necessary. Be firm and straightforward in your relationship I Have the RIGHT to:
Trust myself and my instincts
Ask for a date
Refuse a date
Suggest Activities
Refuse any activities, even if my partner is excited about them
Express my opinions and have them respected
Be respected as a person
Disagree
Make mistakes
Change my mind
Have a partner who is faithful
Tell my partner I want affection
Refuse affection
Be listened to
Be cared about
Refuse sex with anyone, anytime
Not be hit, slapped or shoved
Not be humiliated in public or private
Break up with someone who hurts me, even if I love him
Break up with someone who hurts me, even if they love me
Ask for help if I need it

I Have the Responsibility to:
Determine my limits
Respect other people’s limits
Communicate clearly and honestly, if it’s safe
Take care of myself
Ask for help if I need it I Have the RIGHT to:
Trust myself and my instincts
Ask for a date
Refuse a date
Suggest Activities
Refuse any activities, even if my partner is excited about them
Express my opinions and have them respected
Be respected as a person
Disagree
Make mistakes
Change my mind
Have a partner who is faithful
Tell my partner I want affection
Refuse affection
Be listened to
Be cared about
Refuse sex with anyone, anytime
Not be hit, slapped or shoved
Not be humiliated in public or private
Break up with someone who hurts me, even if I love them
Break up with someone who hurts me, even if they love me
Ask for help if I need it

I Have the Responsibility to:
Determine my limits
Respect other people’s limits
Communicate clearly and honestly, if it’s safe
Take care of myself
Ask for help if I need it Warning Signs Jealousy
Controlling Behavior
Isolation
Overly Sensitive
Disrespectful or Cruel to others
Rigid Sex Roles Doesn't respect your privacy or property
"Playful" use of forcing in sex
Past abusive behavior toward a partner
Early abusive behaviors TOP TRAITS
ACTIVITY "CROSSING OUT"
=
COMPROMISING The Cycle of Violence SEXUAL HARASSMENT feels bad
feels unattractive
one-sided
negative touching
sad/angry
illegal
unwanted
negative self-esteem FLIRTING feels good
feels attractive
reciprocal
positive touching
happy
legal
wanted
positive self-esteem 1 in 3 Emotional/Verbal Abuse Calling you names and putting you down
Preventing you from seeing or talking with friends and family
Telling you what to do and wear
Blaming your actions for their abusive or unhealthy behavior
Stalking you
Threatening to commit suicide to keep you from breaking up with them
Threatening to harm you, your pet or people you care about
Threatening to expose your secrets such as your sexual orientation or immigration status Definition of Dating Violence When a person repeatedly threatens to or acts in a way that physically, sexually, emotionally, mentally, and/or verbally injures their partner Sexual Abuse Unwanted kissing or touching
Unwanted rough or violent sexual activity
Rape or attempted rape
Refusing to use condoms or restricting someone's access to birth control
Keeping someone from protecting themselves from sexually transmitted infections (STIs)
Sexual contact with someone who is very drunk, drugged, unconscious or otherwise unable to give a clear and informed "yes" or "no"
Threatening or pressuring someone into unwanted sexual activity Digital Abuse Sexual Harassment Sexual Assault includes: Rape
Child sexual abuse, molestation, incest, child sexual exploitation
Sexual harassment in the workplace, school, or on the streets
Sexually explicit images and/or talk that is unsolicited and unwanted Sexual Assault Any unwanted sexual contact, either physical or verbal. it is best described as a sexual expression of aggression, control, and/or power inequality Physical Abuse Scratching, punching, biting, strangling, or kicking
Throwing something at you such as a phone, book, shoe or plate
Pulling your hair
Grabbing your clothing
Using a gun, knife, box cutter, bat, mace or other weapon
Grabbing your face to make you look at them
Grabbing you to prevent you from leaving or to force you to go somewhere Tells you who you can or can't be friends with on Facebook and other sites
Sends you negative, insulting or even threatening emails, FB messages, tweets, or other messages online.
Uses sites like Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Tumblr and others to keep constant tabs on you
Sends you unwanted, explicit pictures and demands you send some in return
Pressures you to send explicit video
Steals or insists to give your passwords to them
Constantly texts you and makes you feel like you can't be separated from your phone for fear that you will be punished
Looks through your phone frequently, checks up on your pictures, text, and outgoing calls. Any unwanted physical or verbal
advances that have sexual overtones.
It can happen anywhere- in the
workplace or at school WHY? TO GAIN POWER
AND
CONTROL Eastside Domestic Violence (24 hours)
425-746-1940 or 1-800-827-8840
Harborview Center for Sexual Assault & Traumatic Stress 206-744-1600
King County Protection Order Advocacy Program 206-296-9547
King County Sexual Assault & Resource Center 425- 226-7273
Korean Community Counseling Center
206-784-5691
New Beginnings (24 hours) 206-522-9472
NW Network of Bisexual, Trans, Lesbian, & Gay Survivors of Abuse 206-568-7777
Refugee Women’s Alliance (ReWA)
206-721-0243
Teen Link Hotline 206-461-4922
WA State Coalition of Sexual Assault Programs 360-754-7583
WA State Domestic Violence Hotline
(24 hours) 1-800-562-6025
Youth Eastside Services 425-747-4937
Youthlink 425-452-5254
YWCA-East Cherry (African Americans)
206-461-4882 Abused Deaf Women’s Advocacy Services TDD 206-726-0093
Asian Counseling & Referral Service
206-695-7600
Asian Pacific Islander Women & Safety Center 206-467-9976
Chaya (South Asians) 206-325-0325 or
1-877-92-CHAYA
Child Protective Services (CPS)
1-800-609-8764
Children’s Response Center
425-688-5130
Chinese Information & Service Center
206-624-5633
Communities Against Rape & Abuse
206-322-4856
Consejo Counseling Referral Services (Latino/Hispanic) 206-461-4880
Crisis Clinic 206-461-3222
Domestic Abuse Women’s Network (DAWN)
425- 656-STOP (7867)
Eastside Asian Pacific Islanders
1-877-689-4162 Community resources Cycle of Violence 1 in 5 Thoughts?
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