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TODAY'S MEAN SCENE "Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life, but define yourself." -Harvey S. Firestone This picture shows a young girl in her late teens, she has writing all over her face. Her face represents her identity, by having the most belligerent words that people call her, this makes her appearance depraved. I chose this picture because a big thing about getting bullied is the image that others put on you. This picture is a young African American boy at his school. He is sitting on the ground feeling stressed and disheartened after someone has messed with his locker. I chose this picture to show that being bullied can happen to anyone and some are worse than others. Also to show the level of stress this boy is feeling at such a young age. -Where is the love by The Black eyed Peas. I chose this song because it explains all the bad things that are going on all over the world. The song is asking us “Where is the good in people?” This song relates to children, teens, and even adults. It proves that there is different types of bullying all over the world. By Manda

I walk in and everyone starts to stop and stare,
I start to feel awkward and just run to my chair,
I stay quiet like I've done something wrong,
and bury my head cos I've got to be strong,

I look up from my work, it's all started again,
The giggles and whispers, the scratch of a pen,
They're writing silly notes, passing them around,
but even right now i am not making a sound,

Break time comes, i just want to run away,
I go into the toilets, i just hope and i pray,
I look into the mirror and look right at my face,
covered in sweat and tears, oh what a disgrace,

What am i doing crying and hiding like this,
I feel like going in the room and giving some fist,
but I'm not that kind of person, I'm just too shy,
I'm a kind person who wouldn't even hurt a fly,

I need to go home now and get a little rest,
I'll get prepared for tomorrow and try my best,
not to let any of them bother me in any way,
As tomorrow is the start of another new day,

At home i put on some music and have a cry,
At last i am free and at home, I give a sigh,
Then i jump into bed and i turn off the light,
but i wake up because i get such a fright,

I have had a nightmare, this is all i need now,
I want it all to go away, I ask why and how,
Is this all my fault for being scared and quiet,
Is it my fault that I'm thin and their on a diet,

but i am just me i can't be nobody else, ever,
cos i don't want to feel like this, now or never

Copyright 2005 - Amanda Linzi POETRY I’m alone in this room full of people.
I’m haunted in this crowded place.
I’m crying as I walk down the hall.
I’m hating this life as someone yells.

I cannot get away from this hell.
I cannot give up on my life.
I cannot continue trying.
I cannot seek help.

My life is in shambles.
I have worn myself out.
I’m picking up the pieces of my broken life.
But I can’t fix my heart.
So I shall wander alone in this life. By Pollyanna Besley Me A Day of My Life This poem is actually written by a girl who has been bullied really bad. She attemted to kill herself various times in high school. This poem is very strong and well chosen becase it comes from someone who has suffered the pain. I picked this poem becasue its short but there is a lot of pain in between the lines. This poem shows the sadness that some people feel becasue of bullies. RESPONSES He cries as no one sees it
being bullied, but no one believes him
wondering why day and night
he walks home from school "another fight"
when will this torture end
"everyones doing it it's the new trend"
personally i say its pitiful
all the bullshit going on is cynical
no bully should be allowed to hurt anyone
that's my point of view now take it down some
bulling here is the situation
so stop it now and make it your motivation
your drive to help them survive
to feel safe in their lives
as some kids face the end of knives
we could stop this together
for now and forever. Bully Sin By Alex Bedon INTERVIEWS 1) What’s your point of view on bullying?


2) How did it affect you?


3) Why didn’t you tell people they were bullying you?


4) Do you think bullying has changed from your high school times until now?



5) How could we prevent bullying if you are the one being bullied?


6) How could we help our community?


7) Would you have done something different when you were being bullied?


8) Do you still get bad remarks now?


9) What do you think of bullies?


10) Why do you think others get bullied?



11) Why do bullies bully?


12) Do you think being a bully relates to psychological problems? Why? "Bullying is something that affects everyone and needs to be addressed." "I have suffered from depression and PTSD due to my experience with bullying." “I did tell people about what was happening.” “The only difference is that when I was in school I knew I could go home and kids today even get bullied at home through the internet and text messaging.” “You need to tell people about what is happening and get your family and others to help you get it to stop.” “Having conversations about bullying. Talking with school boards, principals and elected officials.” "No" "No" “I think they are victims of a society that doesn't think all people deserve respect and equal protection under the law.” “I think bullying happens because of bullies insecurities and because society says some people are not equal to others.” “See above.” “Yes it leads to depression, PTSD, and many other issues for kids that are bullied”. jamie nabozny Is it really as much of a problem as we are lead on to believe?



How could bullying be prevented in schools/community?



Your personal point of view about bullying?


What are some tips to tell other what to do and what not to do?


Any suggestions on what to do to prevent bullying? “In the research study Charisse Nixon and I did we asked more than 13,000 teenagers this question, all over the USA. About 1/8th of them said that other kids mistreated them AND that it seriously bothered them... see youthvoiceproject.com - so yes, that is a serious problem.” “The most important thing is for other students and teachers to give help, support, and friendship to kids who are mistreated and excluded. Rules and fair, small consequences for mean behavior helps too. And it is important that kids who are mistreated not beat up on themselves or blame themselves for the mean things others do to them, but instead seek support from adults and other teens.” “It's bad- AND even if a few people continue to be mean, others giving support is helpful. Has bullying gone up or down in the past ten years? Why? There seems to be less hitting and more excluding and name calling.” ”Seek help from adults and from other kids. Understand that if someone is mean that tells you about THEM, not about you. Stay as far as you can from people who are mean to you or to others.” “I would suggest focusing on increasing connection and support instead of preventing bullying. Some people will act like immature jerks no matter what we do- but if most people see it as their job to give encouragement and support when that happens, it won't do as much harm.” Stan Davis BLOG http://lxb32.wordpress.com/2011/05/23/being-bullied/ madeline PERMALINK
May 31, 2011 10:41 pm
"Yes, I find that bullying is a problem throughout the united states. My thoughts on bullying is people pick on people who aren’t “as cool” as they think them themselves are to feed their egos, and make themselves feel better. They’re basically insecure people who find bringing other people down enjoyable for personal reasons. I think that bullying should be watched closer because not many adults or people who can help, get the chance to help." Shalimar Gravener PERMALINK
May 31, 2011 10:43 pm
"Personally, I believe that bullying is a big issue in the United States. There are a lot of ways of bullying, weather its cyber bullying, in groups, or one person. This makes it really easy to bully. My opinion on bullying is that people can attempt to stop it but it will never really go away, just because of how society works. The only thing people can do is learn how to deal with it." Annie PERMALINK
May 31, 2011 10:52 pm
"Yes, I believe bullying is a big issue in the US. Thousands of teens committ suicide every year due to the environment in high schools and even outside of school. Personally, I believe it needs to be stopped and more strict policies need to be enforced." victoria PERMALINK
May 31, 2011 11:33 pm
"Yes I think bullying is a huge problem. There are way too many young teens committing suicide due to bullying. Kids get bullied for the worst reason whether it’s about appearance or personality or anything that kids find to pick on. There is no reason kids should be getting bullied and I think it really needs to stop." Gillian PERMALINK
May 31, 2011 11:38 pm
"I think bullying is stupid and should be banned because people have died and killed themselves because of it." frankie PERMALINK
May 31, 2011 11:48 pm
"Bullies are an issue in the United States. Biggest problem is the police and lawyers wish to not get involved because of the lengthy process it takes to convict such cowardly acts of violence. Needs to seriously be addressed by government officials asap." Angela PERMALINK
June 1, 2011 12:45 am
"I think that it is an issue in some schools, but I don’t see that much of it at our school" akdaniels PERMALINK
June 1, 2011 12:55 am
“I think it is I walk in the halls at school all the time and see it even if kids are just joking around everyone doesn’t always take it as a joke or realize its a joke” CTUprising PERMALINK
June 1, 2011 12:56 am
“Yeah, I see more cyber bullying than anything now, it used to be more physical now it’s mostly cyber or mental” Copenhagen PERMALINK
June 1, 2011 2:17 am
“I agree, cyber bullying is becoming more and more prevalent, and, frankly, it;s disturbing. the bullying hasn;t changed only the medium in which it’s delivered.” Carley PERMALINK
June 1, 2011 2:46 pm
“Bullying is definitely an issue. It hurts people and causes some to commit suicide, obviously a terrible thing. It is prevalent all over the United States and people need to be more aware of it whether it be in school, at home, or on the computer.” Submitted on 2011/06/02 at 2:14 am
I think that today cyber bullying has become the main issue because it makes it much easier for kids to pick on each other because it takes away the face to face interaction and gives kids the courage to say things they wouldn’t normally say in person. WORDLE REFLECTION Bullying is a widespread and serious problem that can happen anywhere. It is not a phase children have to go through, it is not "just messing around", and it is not something to grow out of. Bullying can cause serious and lasting harm.
Although definitions of bullying vary, most agree that bullying involves:
• Imbalance of Power: people who bully use their power to control or harm and the people being bullied may have a hard time defending themselves
• Intent to Cause Harm: actions done by accident are not bullying; the person bullying has a goal to cause harm
• Repetition: incidents of bullying happen to the same the person over and over by the same person or group
Types of Bullying
Bullying can take many forms. Examples include:
• Verbal: name-calling, teasing
• Social:spreading rumors, leaving people out on purpose, breaking up friendships
• Physical: hitting, punching, shoving
• Cyberbullying: using the Internet, mobile phones or other digital technologies to harm others
An act of bullying may fit into more than one of these groups. The White House Conference on Bullying Prevention materials provide information on how all communities can work together to prevent bullying. The materials discuss the risk factors for bullying, effective bullying and violence prevention programs, reduction of bullying against LGBT youth, and cyberbullying. Watch video from the March 10, 2011, White House conference on bullying prevention.
RISK FACTORS FOR AND OUTCOMES OF BULLYING AND VICTIMIZATION [PDF 6.0 MB]
Susan M. Swearer, University of Nebraska – Lincoln
Research on risk factors for bullying and victimization across multiple contexts-- individual, peer, school, family, community, and society are synthesized.
Findings from the National Education Association’s Nationwide Study of Bullying: Teachers’ and Education Support Professionals’ Perspectives [PDF 6.0 MB]
Michaela Gulemetova and Darrel Drury, National Education Association
Catherine P. Bradshaw, Johns Hopkins University
This research brief reports the results of a National Education Association (NEA) survey of teachers and education support professionals (ESPs) that addresses the problem of bullying in America’s public schools.
Overview of Cyberbullying [PDF 6.0 MB]
Sameer Hinduja, Ph.D., Florida Atlantic University
Justin W. Patchin, Ph.D., University of Wisconsin-Eau Claire
Cyberbullying Research Center www.cyberbullying.us
An exploration of Cyberbullying; the willful and repeated use of technology; such as computers, cell phones, and other electronic applications to harass, threaten, and humiliate others.
Bullying and Children’s Peer Relationships [PDF 6.0 MB]
Philip C. Rodkin, University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign
Examining the nature of peer to peer and bully to victim relationships and the nature of bullying.
Effective Strategies In Combating Bullying [PDF 6.0 MB]
Catherine P. Bradshaw & Tracy E. Waasdorp, Johns Hopkins Center for the Prevention of Youth Violence, Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health
Examining the association between bullying and school climate, and summarizes the research on bullying prevention programs and strategies. Recommendations are made regarding the implementation of effective bullying and violence prevention programs.
Reducing the Effectiveness of Bullying Behavior in Schools [PDF 6.0 MB]
OSEP Center on Positive Behavioral Interventions and Supports www.pbis.org
Prepared by: George Sugai University of Connecticut & Rob Horner, University of Oregon
The purpose of this document is to provide an overview of how school-wide positive behavioral interventions and supports (PBIS) can provide such a framework for improving the effectiveness, efficiency, and relevance of practices that can help prevent school violence and bullying behavior, in particular.
BULLYING & THE LESBIAN, GAY, BISEXUAL, TRANSGENDER, QUESTIONING (LGBTQ) COMMUNITY [PDF 6.0 MB]
Dorothy L. Espelage, University of Illinois, Urbana-Champaign
An exploration of the survey data collected from the LGBT community regarding bullying with special emphasis on practices that have shown to promote safety and well-being for LGBT youth and reduce bullying.
Bullying and Students with Disabilities [PDF 6.0 MB]
A Briefing Paper from the National Council on Disability
Jonathan Young, Ph.D., J.D., Chairman, National Council on Disability
Ari Ne’eman, Vice Chair for Engagement, National Council on Disability
Sara Gelser, Member, National Council on Disability
This paper explores the bullying of students with disabilities as a civil rights and public health challenge and includes background, a literature and current law review and policy and practical recommendations for change.
DEAR COLLEAGUE LETTER: BULLYING AND HARASSMENT [PDF 6.0 MB]
UNITED STATES DEPARTMENT OF EDUCATION
Office for Civil Rights
Secretary of Education Bullying Law and Policy Memo [PDF 6.0 MB]
UNITED STATES DEPARTMENT OF EDUCATION
Office of the Secretary
Youth Leader Toolkit
This toolkit is designed to help teens develop a campaign for working with younger children to raise awareness about bullying and to involve them as leaders in their school or organization. Bullying is a serious problem. Chances are, you have experienced bullying, whether you were bullied, you bullied someone else, or you saw someone being bullied.
If you feel mistreated, misunderstood or isolated and think you have no place to turn, know that you are not alone and there is hope. Find out how you can get help if you are being bullied or how you can avoid bullying others.
There are ways to get involved. Learn how you can take a stand against bullying if you see it happen at your school and in your community Chances are, you have been a part of bullying, whether you were the person who was bullied, the person bullying others, or the person who saw it happen.
When you are a young adult (over the age of 18), the rules change. Sometimes behaviors that are considered bullying when you were younger now trigger criminal action.
You have the power to prevent and stop bullying. Find out how you can get help if you are being bullied or how you can avoid bullying others.
There are also ways to get involved. Learn how you can take a stand against bullying in your community or on your campus. Bullying is a common experience for many children and adolescents. Surveys indicate that as many as half of all children are bullied at some time during their school years, and at least 10% are bullied on a regular basis.
Bullying behavior can be physical or verbal. Boys tend to use physical intimidation or threats, regardless of the gender of their victims. Bullying by girls is more often verbal, usually with another girl as the target. Bullying has even been reported in online chat rooms, through e-mail and on social networking sites.
Children who are bullied experience real suffering that can interfere with their social and emotional development, as well as their school performance. Some victims of bullying have even attempted suicide rather than continue to endure such harassment and punishment.
Children and adolescents who bully thrive on controlling or dominating others. They have often been the victims of physical abuse or bullying themselves. Bullies may also be depressed, angry or upset about events at school or at home. Children targeted by bullies also tend to fit a particular profile. Bullies often choose children who are passive, easily intimidated, or have few friends. Victims may also be smaller or younger, and have a harder time defending themselves.
If you suspect your child is bullying others, it's important to seek help for him or her as soon as possible. Without intervention, bullying can lead to serious academic, social, emotional and legal difficulties. Talk to your child's pediatrician, teacher, principal, school counselor, or family physician. If the bullying continues, a comprehensive evaluation by a child and adolescent psychiatrist or other mental health professional should be arranged. The evaluation can help you and your child understand what is causing the bullying, and help you develop a plan to stop the destructive behavior.
If you suspect your child may be the victim of bullying ask him or her to tell you what's going on. You can help by providing lots of opportunities to talk with you in an open and honest way.
It's also important to respond in a positive and accepting manner. Let your child know it's not his or her fault, and that he or she did the right thing by telling you. Other specific suggestions include the following:
• Ask your child what he or she thinks should be done. What's already been tried? What worked and what didn't?
• Seek help from your child's teacher or the school guidance counselor. Most bullying occurs on playgrounds, in lunchrooms, and bathrooms, on school buses or in unsupervised halls. Ask the school administrators to find out about programs other schools and communities have used to help combat bullying, such as peer mediation, conflict resolution, and anger management training, and increased adult supervision.
• Don't encourage your child to fight back. Instead, suggest that he or she try walking away to avoid the bully, or that they seek help from a teacher, coach, or other adult.
• Help your child practice what to say to the bully so he or she will be prepared the next time.
• Help your child practice being assertive. The simple act of insisting that the bully leave him alone may have a surprising effect. Explain to your child that the bully's true goal is to get a response.
• Encourage your child to be with friends when traveling back and forth from school, during shopping trips, or on other outings. Bullies are less likely to pick on a child in a group.
If your child becomes withdrawn, depressed or reluctant to go to school, or if you see a decline in school performance, additional consultation or intervention may be required. A child and adolescent psychiatrist or other mental health professional can help your child and family and the school develop a strategy to deal with the bullying. Seeking professional assistance earlier can lessen the risk of lasting emotional consequences for your child. No, it's not just boys being boys. It takes a special breed of person to cause pain to others. But the one most hurt by bullying is the bully himself—though that's not at first obvious and the effects worsen over the life cycle. Yes, females can be bullies too. They just favor a different means of mean.
On the first day of spring in 1993, honor student Curtis Taylor took his seat in the eighth-grade classroom he had grown to hate in the Oak Street Middle School in Burlington, Iowa. For three years other boys had been tripping him in the hallways, knocking things out of his hands. They'd even taken his head in their hands and banged it into a locker. Things were now intensifying. The name-calling was harsher. Some beloved books were taken. His bicycle was vandalized twice. Kids even kicked the cast that covered his broken ankle. And in front of his classmates, some guys poured chocolate milk down the front of his sweatshirt. Curtis was so upset he went to see a school counselor. He blamed himself for the other kids not liking him.
That night, Curtis went into a family bedroom, took out a gun, and shot himself to death. The community was stunned. The television cameras rolled, at least for a few days. Chicago journalist Bob Greene lingered over the events in his column, and then he printed letters from folks for whom the episode served largely as a reminder of their own childhood humiliations at the hands of bullies.
Months later, in Cherokee County, Georgia, 15-year-old Brian Head grew tired of the same teasing and deeds. The denouement was only slightly more remarkable. He shot himself to death—in front of his classmates. He walked to the front of the classroom and pulled the trigger. The Georgia death came on the heels of five bullying-related suicides in a small town in New Hampshire. Within days, the story got lost in the cacophony of breaking events.
Just over a decade earlier, in late 1982, a nearly identical series of events unfolded in the northern reaches of Norway. Three boys between the ages of 10 and 14 killed themselves, one newspaper reported, to avoid continued severe bullying from schoolmates. But the story would not die. Nor would it shrivel into self-pity. An entire nation erupted. The following fall, scarcely nine months later, a campaign against bullying was in full swing in all of Norway's primary and junior high schools, launched by the minister of education. And its architect, Dan Olweus, Ph.D., a psychologist who, in 1970, had pioneered the systematic study of bullying, became something of a national hero.
The difference between the American and the Scandinavian experience could arguably be summed up in four words: Mighty Morphin Power Rangers. A nation whose toys are given to slashing robots in half seems to have more tolerance for violence as a solution to problems. Most Americans do not take bullying very seriously—not even school personnel, a surprising finding given that most bullying takes place in schools. If Americans think at all about it, they tend to think that bullying is a given of childhood, at most a passing stage, one inhabited largely by boys who will, simply, inevitably, be boys.
"They even encourage it in boys," observes Gary W. Ladd, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at the University of Illinois and one of a growing cadre of Americans studying the phenomenon. "That's what parents always ask me," says psychologist David Schwartz, Ph.D., of Vanderbilt University, "isn't it just a case of boys being boys?" The same parents harbor the belief that kids should somehow always be able to defend themselves—to "stand up for themselves," "fight back," "not be pushed around by anyone"—and those who don't or can't almost deserve what they get. Bullying is just good old boyhood in a land of aggressive individualists. RESEARCH Types of Bullying Teens Bullying Programs Young Adults Bully Stories Input on Bullying This is sowing the diferent ways that someone could be bullied. In the new era of technology, there are many possible ways to hurt some mentally and physically. These stories are giving out a message to everyone about how serious bullying has become. Kids are committing suicide. This is a huge matter becasue it's also hurting everyone around them. This shows the bad in bullying and how often we see it in society. The issue keeps growing daily. Talking about bully prevtion, now that this issue is going on every where experts are giving out the word on stoping bullies. We do not want people hurting others. If you are being bullied there is help every where. You dont have to go to a teacher or your parents if you do not want to. There is profecional help that will stop the bulling. This is a big consern, that is why there are organizations all over the world. Bullying does not just occur with kids and teens it also with young adults and in some cases adults. PHOTOGRAPHY Profecional This picture shows a boy doing his homework in the bathroom becasue he is being bullied and even then bullies come and make his life miserable. I picked this picture to show that bullies look for fights and try to ruin other people. ARTICLES When talk of teen bullying comes up, younger adolescents are often left out. TV shows like Glee and advocacy projects like It Gets Better focus on the plight of bullied kids in high school — not middle school. But that misses the reality that tweens can be just as mean as teens.
Consider the numbers: An estimated half of sixth-graders are bullied in a week, and roughly four in five students report being verbally harassed in middle school. Further, in a survey by UCLA researchers, more than 70% of teens acknowledged being bullied online at least once a year. Indeed, the rate of bullying peaks when kids are 10 to 13 years old — and that's when its effects are arguably at their worst as well. (More on Time.com: When Bullying Turns Deadly: Can It Be Stopped?)
"Relational aggression early on can be especially damaging since it tends to stick," says Ryan E. Adams, a peer victimization expert. "Early adolescence is when you get your reputation."
Adams' work focuses on relational aggression, bullying that takes the form of rumor-spreading and name-calling, rather than physical blows. It involves purposeful exclusion of victimized kids and gossiping about them. Imagine tween versions of Heathers, Clueless or Mean Girls (no generation is spared). It's not physical aggression, but it arguably causes more lasting harm.
For a recent study published in the Journal of Early Adolescence, Adams collaborated with Concordia University psychologist William Bukowski and Ph.D. student Nancy Bartlett, to study the mechanics of tween social politics and bullying. The researchers found that some tweens use bullying to gain popularity.
"Generally, kids don't like kids who are aggressive," says Adams, the study's lead author. "But relational aggression seems to be much more complex and has these differential outcomes depending on who's using it, how it's being used and who's being victimized." (More on Time.com: Bullying: Suicides Highlight a Schoolyard Problem)
The researchers analyzed the peer ratings of 367 fifth- and sixth-graders for the study. In particular, they looked at how the usually negative relationship between relational aggression and peer liking held up among kids who were socially dominant (the popular kids) and those who were not (those who had ever been victimized by peers). In other words, the researchers wanted to know, when popular kids bully other kids, are the bullies more or less liked by their peers? How about when the victims of bullying express aggression themselves — are they more or less liked?
It turns out, the social standing of the bully and the victim makes a difference. The researchers found that, when a popular student bullies other kids, he or she doesn't get stigmatized; the student is exempted from what Adams calls "the blowback typically associated with aggression."
The same cannot be said for the victims of bullies, however. Victims who turn aggressive and bully other kids turn out to be the least liked kids in middle school. Worse, the findings suggest that no one cares when these kids are bullied.
How a kid attacks or reacts matters greatly too. An aggressive victim who's not proficient in schoolyard politics may react to being bullied in over-the-top ways that cut further at his social standing. And when he bullies other kids himself, it's usually not in the winsome ways of the popular kid, who knows how to get away with bad behavior. The most popular tween shrewdly uses laughter, for instance, so he doesn't come across as too mean when gossiping. (More on Time.com: How to Bully-Proof Young Girls)
"If parents and teachers assume that peers always have negative perceptions of those who behave aggressively, [then] the present study shows that this assumption is not necessarily accurate," says Kathryn LaFontana, an expert in peer relationships.
So what can parents and teachers do? To begin with, they should recognize what victimization is. "A lot of times with principals, teachers and even parents, they think, 'Oh, these are just kids being kids,'" Adams says. "But much of the aggression is much more subtle. And by ignoring them, you're reinforcing them."
Adams says, when he used to train teachers, he would often suggest that they think of the most difficult kid they have to deal with in class. Most likely, he says, other kids don't like that kid as well and he ends up getting the worst of it. (More on Time.com: How Not to Raise a Bully: The Early Roots of Empathy)
"They're not likable so it might be easier for teachers to look the other way," he says. "But reaching out to them and understanding that there's a lot more behind that negative behavior you don't like might help."
And what about the popular bullies — how should they be punished? This is where things get murkier for psychologist Patricia Hawley.
"What if aggression fosters personal growth such as self-esteem and wins high regard from the social group at the same time? The fact of the matter is that effective adults use relational aggression all the time," Hawley says. "We reward them with respect and higher salaries."
For Adams, things aren't so gray. He notes that, fortunately, relational aggression becomes less and less accepted after the tween years. Still, he worries that being aggressive may be confounded with being assertive, and this may send a message that there are benefits to bullying. (More on Time.com: New Laws Target Workplace Bullying)
"There may be success at work, but there are also other issues like 'Do you feel good?' 'Are you anxious?' and 'Do you have friends?'" he says, adding, "Is relational aggression something you have to do to get ahead? I don't think so."
So what message would Adams tell victimized kids? Not surprisingly, it's a familiar one: It gets better.
"These campaigns featuring celebrities give kids somebody that they trust and that they identify with, whether it's [because they have] the same sexual orientation or they're doing something they aspire to," he says, noting that tweens tend to be very egocentric at this point in their lives. "It helps to have somebody say, 'I made it.'" Are we missing the real solutions to the school bullying crisis?
Published on October 19, 2010 by Maureen Healy in Creative Development
“Bullying was satisfying. It gave me more confidence.
And I kind of felt powerful.”
- Daniel Harrison, Age 15 (Former Bully)
Last week, I was away in Alabama when I tuned into CNN’s program on bullying. The progam shared ideas from Dr. Phil, and showed a new Public Service Announcement (PSA) titled “Stop Bullying, Speak Up." These are all solid starts to elevating the collective consciousness about bullying, but in my opinion they just aren’t enough.
Going Deeper
Bullying is simply a symptom. It is a “warning sign” that a school system is sick. Akin to a child with Lyme disease that has chronic headaches, if you solely treat the headaches perhaps you’ll make some progress, but the real issue – the underlying problem--isn’t the headaches but the Lyme disease. You must treat the underlying cause in order to create a healthy system (body, school, community).
So much of our current “solutions” are merely treating the symptoms of bullying. New school reporting policies, anti-bullying task forces, screening new students for clinical depression and passing laws are a solid start. My suggestions for going deeper include:
Measure and Promote Positive Schools (communities / cultures) – Is this school one of inclusion? Does it value differences? Are the teachers attentive to student’s problems? Is basic emotional and social health taught to educators? Are we measuring how effective a school is at creating a culture of inclusion, character and meaning? Is there a place for a depressed or abused child to seek confidential help? Are we honoring children’s different capabilities, interests and strengths or seeking to make “cookie-cutter” kids? Is there a no tolerance policy relative to bullies? Are their clear consequences for inflicting abuse on school peers (emotional, physical, mental)? Are we teaching kids the proper use of their personal power? I believe schools need to be measured as to the extent they create "healthy" environments versus the opposite - then we need to reward healthy school systems.
Mandating Emotional Education - No longer can we rely upon parents being the sole educators of a child’s emotional life. The rates of childhood abuse, loss and trauma continue to be high – so it is up to the traditional school systems to not only value teaching the core courses of math and science but also teach emotional health from K-12. Bullies are primarily created through lack of knowledge and poor environments (role models).
Parent Enrichment Classes – Parents don’t get a manual and often parent the way they were parented (which may have included bullying, addiction, abuse) so requiring one annual meeting of parents so that everyone can be on the same page in terms of what raising an emotionally and socially health child means is essential.
Ultimately, we need to shift our focus from “anti-bullying” to the real problem. The real problem being that these ill systems have focused upon getting students to pass tests, grades and get decent academic standings versus educating their hearts. And that children aren’t given any tools of emotional and social health so they do the best they can with what they’ve got – the problem being that so many kids just don’t have a lot.
The Cure
Curing the bully crisis in America isn’t simple. It is commingled with unfit parents, poor role models, mental health problems in children’s homes and environments along with school systems that focus nearly exclusively on grades versus cultivating kindness. I believe a huge shift needs to occur from stopping bullying to growing healthy kids. At the crux of the recent bully induced suicides are students who weren’t 100% healthy and felt they had nowhere to go – no other options, no other solutions.
There is this old Native American saying that the cure is in the wound. I believe this is true. And let’s not let the wound of Taylor Clementi, Phoebe Prince, Seth Walsch, Asher Brown, Billy Lucas and all the other kids who have taken their lives teach us nothing. It is there choices that call our country, our educational pioneers and everyday parents to stand up and say – enough is enough. There is better way to bring up our kids today.
By Maureen Healy
Maureen Healy is the founder of Growing Happy Kids, and author of 365 Perfect Things to Say to Your Kids. She is an expert on children’s emotional health and raising happier kids amidst today’s challenges at home as well as educational settings. School Bullying The Tricky Politics of Tween Bullying ARTWORK This article explains that being bullied is a huge issue all over the United States. It gives a breif explination on what is bullying and how could teachers and parents prevent it from happening. The popularity a kid has at school determines wether he is going to get bullied or not. This article also goes through all the differnt steps of how to tell someone you are being bullied. In this article it shows that people are getting very concerned about the bullies all over k-12. I was shocked to hear that little kids bully just as much as the kids in middle, and high school kids do. this shows a great amount of immaturity throughout the young adults. This shows the mental state that some of the kids are in. Here are also some stories of kids that are being bullied. Some of the storied that these kids tell is just horrible to read. What's wrong with the world mama?
People living like aint got no mamas
I think the whole worlds addicted to the drama
Only attracted to the things that bring you trauma
Overseas yeah we tryin to stop terrorism
But we still got terrorists here livin
In the USA the big CIA the Bloodz and the Crips and the KKK
But if you only have love for your own race
Then you only leave space to discriminate
And to discriminate only generates hate
And if you hatin you're bound to get irate
Yeah madness is what you demonstrate
And that's exactly how anger works and operates
You gotta have love just to set it straight
Take control of your mind and meditate
Let your soul gravitate to the love y'all

People killing people dying
Children hurtin you hear them crying
Can you practice what you preach
Would you turn the other cheek?
Father Father Father help us
Send some guidance from above
Cause people got me got me questioning
Where is the love?(where is the lovex3)(the love2x)

It just ain't the same all ways have changed
New days are strange is the world the insane?
If love and peace so strong
Why are there pieces of love that don't belong
Nations dropping bombs
Chemical gases filling lungs of little ones
With ongoing suffering
As the youth die young
So ask yourself is the loving really strong?
So I can ask myself really what is going wrong
With this world that we living in
People keep on giving in
Makin wrong decisions
Only visions of them livin and
Not respecting each other
Deny thy brother
The wars' going on but the reasons' undercover
The truth is kept secret
Swept under the rug
If you never know truth Then you never know love
Where's the love y'all?(I don't know)
Where's the truth y'all?(I don't know)
Where's the love y'all?

People killing people dying
Children hurtin you hear them crying
Can practice what you preach
Would you turn the other cheek?
Father father father help us
Send some guidance from above
Cause people got me got me questioning
Where is the love?(where is the lovex3)(the lovex2)

I feel the weight of the world on my shoulder
As I'm getting older y'all people get colder
Most of us only care about money makin
Selfishness got us followin the wrong direction
Wrong information always shown by the media
Negative images is the main criteria
Infecting their young minds faster than bacteria
Kids wanna act like what the see in the cinema
Whatever happened to the values of humanity
Whatever happened to the fairness and equality
Instead of spreading love, we're spreading anomosity
Lack of understanding, leading us away from unity
That's the reason why sometimes I'm feeling under
That's the reason why sometimes I'm feeling down
It's no wonder why sometimes I'm feeling under
I gotta keep my faith alive, until love is found

People killing people dying
Children hurtin you hear them crying
Can you practice what you preach
Would you turn the other cheek?
Father Father Father help us
Send some guidance from above
Cause people got me got me questioning
Where is the love?(fade) LYRICS LYRICS This something that was made by Rockstar Games, I do not aprove of this game becasue it basically shows others how to bully. I picked this to show that even though bullying is a huge problem, famouse companies are promoting these video games that kids of all ages play. even though the game says ages 16+ kids do not listen to that. This is something that my little cousin did at her school. she told me that they had to do that becasue the teacher wants the room to be a happy place and no mean things. I picked this to show that little seven year old kids are already learning about bullies. The prevention of being bullied is brought up even when you are a little kid. This picture is one that i am showing. this girl is in the middle of three shadows, all the shadows are pointing and laughing. shows how she is being laughed at in the shadows of her life. The sadness that she can not ever get away from. My Own This picture is me and my friend Mikel (left), beating up Aaron (middle). Aaron is dressed up as a geek and we are "cool kids". This is a picture that i took with my cell phone of an actual fight that i saw of a kid "playing" around with his other friend. It was funny asking both of them to sign so i could put the picture on prezi. This is my friend, we were at a party and he randomly got up and tackled down this kid to prove that he was tougher. we all had the get them apart because it got bad really fast. VIDEO The theme that I picked for this project was bullying. I picked this for personal reasons and because I wanted to know more about the subject. As I did more research about this topic I realized that it had a strong connection to psychology. I learned that if you are getting bullied every single day of your life it starts to mess with your head. At very young ages kids and adults are having huge mental issues due to the stress that is being cause by these bullies. Stress at a young age is like burning down your brain. There are many deaths because kids cannot take being bullied. Life is not fun at all for kids that have to live in the shadows because of bullies. The psychological effect on kids that are being bullied is huge, they turn insecure and scared. Now bullies also have a psychological connection because most of the time they bully for reasons like, they are scared of being the victim; they have been hurt before, they want to stand out from the other in a bad way, to show toughness, ect. Their mind is also messed up because they bully to feel better about themselves. The bully to create a picture of themselves, when I say that I mean they make others think the opposite of what the bully actually is. The problem is that they have been hurt in the past so now they have this shield. Another reason is that they want to fit in with everyone else so to be “cool” they try to hurt someone else because they think that is a “cool” thing to do. I think that bullies deserve as much help as a person that is being bullied. This is because the mental and psychological issue is something that needs to be taken care of. At the end of it all everyone needs to play a part. This issue has a very large psychological connection because of the fact that it damages both the bully and the victim. The victim gets it worse because he is getting a physical and mental abuse. After the abuse goes on for a while a person becomes sacred of people, talking, and even depraves from social life. The experience of being bullied can end up causing lasting damage to victims. This is both self-evident, and also supported by a lot of research. It is not necessary to be physically harmed in order to suffer lasting harm. Words and gestures are quite enough. What is far more difficult to mend is the primary wound that bullying victims suffer which is damage to their self concepts, to their identities. Bullying is an attempt to instill fear and self loathing. Being the repetitive target of bullying damages your ability to view yourself as a desirable, capable and effective individual. You may not see it right away, but as your brain captures these things over the years your brain becomes hurt and will not work the same as it used to. By being bullied all you are getting in your head are negative things. Things that make you feel helpless and unsure of what to do or where to go. Now concluding this paragraph I want to inform whoever is reading this that if you see someone being bullied of harmed, to please stop it or tell someone about it. Remember “Put yourself in the other persons shoes” just for that bit of time and see the pain that they go through. CLASS CONNECTION WORK CITED “ S.A.F.E. "S.A.F.E. Network's Bully Prevention in Schools." S.A.F.E. Network Providing Sex Abuse Prevention Education. Web. 09 June 2011. <http://www.safenetwork.org/Bully_Prevention_In_Schools.htm>.
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