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Managing Conflict

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Balazs Felinger

on 29 January 2014

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-outward reflection of a person’s emotional condition
S + ..... = R
Conflict
Understanding conflict styles
People have different styles in how they respond to conflict, and their styles can vary depending on their level of emotional investment in the issue at hand or their power relationship with the other party to the conflict.
The different conflict styles are commonly defined as incorporating concern for self and concern for others in varying degrees:

Managing Conflict
Win Loose
Loose Loose
Win Win
There are only 3 outcomes to conflict
Conflict
What is good about it?
What’s not good about it?
How does it show up here?
How would I like to be when conflict occurs?
Between the Stimulus and Response, there is a space.

In that space is our power to choose our Response.

In our response lies our growth and our freedom.

… I began to discover in that space my own ability to make a consciously chosen response.

S. Covey “First Things First”
Self awareness
Creative responses
v’s reactive responses
S + T = R
stimulus
thinking
response
Hit the
PAUSE
button
Body Language
People form 60-80%
of their initial opinion of a person in less than 4 minutes
What IS
assertive communication?
Halfway between aggressive and passive

Assertive communication is the ability to express positive and negative ideas and feelings in an open, honest and direct way

It recognizes our rights whilst still respecting the rights of others

It allows us to take responsibility for ourselves and our actions without judging or blaming other people

And it allows us to constructively confront and find a mutually satisfying solution where conflict exists
What assertive communication
is not...
It's NOT a guarantee that you will get what you want

It's definitely NOT an acceptable style of communication with everyone, but at least it's NOT being aggressive

But it IS about choice
Characteristics
eye contact:
demonstrates interest, shows sincerity

body posture:
congruent body language will improve the significance of the message

gestures:
appropriate gestures help to add emphasis

voice:
a level, well modulated tone is more convincing and acceptable, and is not intimidating

timing:
use your judgement to maximise receptivity and impact

content:
how, where and when you choose to comment is probably more important than WHAT you say
There are six main characteristics of
assertive communication
Importance of “I” statements
Part of being assertive involves the ability to appropriately express your needs and feelings.

You can accomplish this by using "I" statements.

These indicate ownership, do not attribute blame, focuses on behaviour, identifies the effect of behaviour, is direct and honest, and contributes to the growth of your relationship with each other.
Listening – People seek value
Listening provides an ever present access to value

Listen to the content

Listen for underlying causes or relationships

Listen with all your senses simultaneously
Powerful Questioning
Ask questions that reflect active listening and an understanding of the other person's perspective

Ask questions that evoke discovery, commitment or action
G
- agree on purpose,

R
- describe current situation uncover real issues

O
- draw out all possible solutions select preferred solution/s

W
- discuss way forward, agreements
Some basic ground rules for effective communication when resolving differences are:
1.
Listen without interrupting
2.
Approach concerns as "us against the problem" not as "me against you"
3.
Present concerns in a factual manner, by stating what has happened, how you feel about the situation and what you would like to happen in the future
4.
Separate the people from the problem
5.
Show a genuine desire to understand the other person's point of view
6.
Acknowledge the other person's views and opinions
7.
Seek to agree on a desired end outcome and then explore alternative options to achieve this end
8.
If emotions flare up agree to reschedule another time to talk, and
9.
If you get stuck at a point and cannot move on agree to seek assistance to resolve your concerns.
Important things to consider when you are one of the parties in conflict are:
1.
Take ownership and responsibility for your part in the conflict
2.
Identify your emotional triggers and make a conscious decision to keep your emotions in check
3.
State clearly what you believe the problem to be and how you feel about it
4.
Express your interests and concerns assertively
5.
Listen to the other's position without interrupting
6.
Generate solutions openly and inclusively
7.
Make a time to check how things are going in the near future
8.
Seek further assistance and advice to better support your efforts, and
9.
Look after yourself
Communication do's and don'ts
listen carefully
show concern and encouragement (e.g.. "I'm concerned that you feel that way ...")
express empathy (e.g.. "I understand how that might make you feel...")
ask open-ended questions ("Tell me about that"... "What was that like?")
acknowledge and validate each position
allow time for each person to have their say
receive the whole message before reacting, and
summarize and paraphrase, helping each person to express their needs (e.g.. "What I hear you saying is ... is that correct?").
Do
do not display impatience and defensiveness, even if you feel this way
do not act as if nothing is the matter
do not judge
do not deny the feelings of others
do not argue the feelings of others
do not try to solve the problem too quickly, and
do not assume sole responsibility to fix the problem.

Don't
De escalation High Conflict Situations (HCS)
Understanding the needs and feelings of parents that fuel HCS

Understanding ….. Staff

Acre Woods Policies and Procedures – appropriate conduct and staff and child safety
Thank you
“Things do not change
...we change.”
- Henry David Thoreau
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